©Jan Andersen 2006
Stella, 41, California, US

I'm 41 and got pregnant (accidentally) at 40. At 8 weeks there was a heart beat.  At about 9 - 10 weeks, there was no heartbeat.  I passed the pregnancy around 12 - 13 weeks.

We then started trying again and have not had any luck for about a year now. 

We are planning to start IVF in the next few months.

I would love to have an opportunity to write to any or all of the women above, so I can give and get encouragement.

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Posted 1 February 2012


Anne, 39

I turned 39 on 30th December 2011.  My partner and I do not have any children so would love to become parents.  Before I came across your site I was so put off by all  the negative opinions of so called experts that I nearly gave up!  I did fall pregnant last May after our first try, but had a miscarriage. I split up from my partner and have met someone new.  My nan was 46 when she had her last child naturally, so there is hope.

I would like to chat to other mothers in my position.

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Posted 1 February 2012


Pamela, 43, California, US

I am married and I have 7 children and 2 stepchildren ranging from 5 to 24 years.  I had 5 children and my husband 2 and we had 2 together.I had a tubal ligation after my last daughter in 2006 and just had a reversal done because it had dramatically affected my health.  I am less then two weeks post op and thinking a lot about the possibility of pregnancy.  I have mixed feelings.  Sometimes I think no way, I am too old and I finally put my last child in school!  Then sometimes I think of how great it would be.  My hormones are going to take a while to regulate and we can't even try until after the middle of March to conceive if that is our desire.  I want to honor God and trust in him for my family size but I am scared at the same time.  If any of you relate to the feeling of fear I would love to talk with you.  On top of all that I am a grandmother to one baby girl and I am sure there will be more coming soon.  I have decided to treat my body as though it were going to conceive and start exercising, eating better and taking vitamins just in case.  As with many of you, my family and friends who know I can now get pregnant think it's crazy, but I am used to that having already had 7 kids. 

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Posted 30 January 2012


Rachel, 46, Melbourne, Australia

I have been trying to conceive since 2009 with my second husband. I am 46 and he is nearly 30. We have tried ovulation induction with no success. Doctors have said  I might have chance with IVF or donor eggs but my husband will not agree to these. I have been trying acupuncture and Chinese herbs since June 2011. I have also started to take amazon herbs for last month but still no luck. I would like to meet other mums who have been TTC like me.

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Posted 5 January 2012


Shelley, 41, Ontario, Canada

I am a 41-year-old woman and my husband had a vasectomy reversal last June. I have 4 previous children and he has 1. We performed the at home spermcheck fertility test and it was positive. I have started taking Fertilaid for women. We seem to have several things in our way - the Vas reversal and the age factor for me. I'd feel much more confident if I knew anyone was once in the same boat as us, and had success. His vasectomy was 18-years-old; however, we did have the microsurgery and it seems to have worked, though we don't know about motility.(he won't get a test performed at a clinic).

I used to get pregnant so easily - too easily, so this is getting very hard to wrap my head around. I still have periods to the day so menopause hasn't reared its ugly head yet.

Please help - some reassurance would be greatly appreciated at this point.

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Posted 5 January 2012


Sheri, 47, Jacksonville, Florida, US 

I am a 47 year old mom with 3 children, aged 19, 8 and 5. I had my tubes tied in 2006 with the birth of my son at the age of 42. This past month, I skipped my period for the first time ever outside of a bonafide pregnancy. While I am thinking that my symptoms could be 'early' menopause, all that I know tells me that I am pregnant. I have all the classic signs of pregnancy, including 'morning sickness' which is a daily routine. If you are an older mom who has had your tubes tied, but God had other plans for you, I would love to hear from you. I will be making an appointment with my doctor this week.

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Posted 3 January 2012


Katerina, 41, Czech Republic

I am interested to write and contact with other ladies hoping to be a mother after 41 like me.

I am aged 41, from Czech and my husband is Persian, aged 32. We are very happy together and have been trying for a baby for the last 5 months. I feel every month many emotions and am disappointed after seeing no result, especially because I am running out of time.We are both healthy. Any advice or experiences?

Wish good luck to all of you.

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Posted 29 December 2012


Kirsten, 51, New Mexico, US

Hi, I had my first wonderful daughter just after my 50th birthday and am now pregnant from a donor egg at 51. I had a wonderful uncomplicated pregnancy. This time I am a bit more conscious of my age and want to establish a strong support system with some other women.  We live in the country and want to rear our children in the influence of nature.  Can anyone out there relate to this?

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Posted 21 December 2011


Aleia, 38, Pittsburgh, US

I love pregnancy and childbirth, child rearing.  I will be 39 in February 2012.  I would love to be penpals with anyone who is willing.   I am not pregnant now, but I have 3 children ages 2, 8 and 12.  I want two more children.  I hope God will bless me to have two more and take care of all five!!!!

Sincerely, I love family.  Children make the world a better place.  Moms of all ages need support and encouragement to remain calm and endure!!!

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Posted 19 December 2011


Veronica, 45, US

My name is Veronica I turned 45 in November and new husband (Married in February 2011) have been trying to conceive for just about a year.  We have both been to the doctor, his sperm count is triple the normal, not bad for a 45 about to be 46 year old!  As for me all my hormone levels are normal and the ultra sound showed that everything looks good.  My cycle are like clock work and have always been.

I have one child she is 23, but my husband's ex-wives were both unable to have children.  He would love nothing more than to have a child and so would I.  I did get pregnant in April of this past year but miscarried on Father's Day it was devastating to both of us but we both knew something just wasn't right from the very beginning.  The doctor is very supportive and encouraged us to keep trying and so we do. 

We agree that fertility treatments are not for us, if it is God's plan for us to have children than we will.  We try to stay positive but it is discouraging each month as we hold our breath and wait to see if I get my period.  Well today is one of those days and when I awoke this morning I found that yet again we are not pregnant.  HELP!  Our family (for the most part) is very supportive of our decision as are our friends but no one really understands the monthly frustration of the wait and see game.  Although I have a family history of woman who have children into their 40's, neither side of the family has a history of birth defects, we don't seem to be able to get pregnant.

I would love to interact with other woman going through the same thing who understand the frustrations, who have been successful in getting pregnant naturally, and have any advice to share.

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Posted 6 December 2011


Nancy, 45, Arizona, US

I just turned 45 Oct 2011 and got married for the first time in July 2011 to my husband - his first marriage also - who is 12 years younger then me.  I have two grown children; he has none and we both really want a child together.  We started infertility treatments in July but to no avail.  We are considering moving onto IUI next month.  We have been using clomid with injectables and timed intercourse. I could really use some encouraging news out there from other women around my age that it is really possible to get pregnant.  I had three eggs this month but no pregnancy.  And there are some many sites and postings saying that our eggs are just too old to have a child (with our own eggs).

I don't think I have ever wanted/needed anything else so much in my life.  My husband and I are so much in love and would love to have a child of our own  He does not want to use donor eggs and realistically we are unable to afford donor eggs anyway.  The question is am I too old and wasting money on infertility treatments or is it really possible.

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Posted 21 November 2011


Kim 43, Las Vegas, NV, USA (Updated)

Updated message 21 November 2011

Update. Thanksgiving weekend brings us into week 26 and our third trimester! All is going well. Have had CVS and amniocentesis testing. Both came back normal healthy baby girl. They have had a cardiologist look at her through ultrasound, all good there too. This pregnancy has been really pretty easy, no complications yet. Feeling great and surprising doctors. Can't wait to meet our girl! Her name will be Lillian Joann.

Updated message 13 July 2011:

The doctors are shocked that we conceived naturally and that I was able to get pregnant at all. So right away they order blood work and ultrasound tests. At the time of the ultra sound i was just a few days past 5 weeks’ pregnant, 3 gestational weeks. They didn’t see a heartbeat and said my sack was tear drop shaped and that they believed i had or was miscarrying based on that. I’ve had no spotting or cramping, a little morning sickness, but not bad. Overall I feel great. They repeated blood testing for hormone levels again. The Dr called me later in the day with the results. My levels had gone from 550 to 8500 and she was surprised to tell me I was still pregnant and it appears to be a normal healthy pregnancy. They want to repeat the ultrasound after 19 July because then I will be 7 1/2 weeks and it should have a detectable heartbeat.

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Hi, I just turned 43 last week. I have a 4½-year-old son from my previous marriage. My present husband has no children of his own and desperately wants one or more. He and I both raised 2 stepchildren to adulthood each in our previous marriages and that can be birth control in itself (lol). And for both of us it was in our younger years. My son was my decision and not my ex’s and consequently he mandated a permanent form of birth control, although he would not have a vasectomy. So I had an IUD after the birth of my son. Not sure if that's affecting my ability to get pregnant. I would not allow him to pressure me into tying my tubes because I wanted more children even though he did not and thought if he died or we divorced, then I might have the chance with another mate to have more children. The divorce happened; I met Jon, 46, and we have been trying to conceive naturally for the past 6 months since my IUD was removed. I started having periods again right away, cycle every 26-27 days. Have been doing home ovulation testing and ovulate day 10-12. He has had a semen analysis that was in the normal ranges. I had a Hysto something test to make sure my tubes are clear, normal. I had no trouble conceiving my son at 38. I'm getting very discouraged. I will see a fertility doctor and an OBGYN to discuss IVF options. The negative feedback we receive from family and friends that think we are too old does not bother us. Most think we are younger than we are as neither of us has gray hair and we pack a 4-year-old everywhere we go :-).

Looking for words of encouragement and hope that I can have at least one, if not two more children. Jon is an awesome father to my son and I only hope I can give him the gift of his own child. I know how badly I wanted and love my son and I think being able to relate to his desire for a child and knowing the joy that comes from fulfilling that desire makes it even harder to handle as another month goes by with no success. Looking for support and friends, hopefully some in the western United States. Good luck to all in our same predicament!

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Posted 8 July 2011


Bev, 44

I'm a 44 year old pregnant mom with 2 children from a previous marriage. My new partner has never had children. I'm due in February and would love to hear from some other women around my age.

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Posted 13 November 2011


Katherine, 43, San Francisco Bay, CA, US

I am a first time stay-home mom of a 2 year old who would like to meet/talk/write/communicate with other older first-time moms in a similar situation. In my progressive neck of the woods, you would think that I would meet older first time moms, but I haven't at all!  Almost all of my friends are childless, most don't want kids; they like to do things with "just me", not my child, which makes me feel isolated. On the other hand, I have several friends are in their late 30's/40's, who would love to have a child, but haven't or cannot, for whatever reason.

Anyway, would love to connect with other moms in my same situation, where ever you are! Would love to keep it positive and real.  I am starting to get anxious for the time when my child begins school or not, as I may just home school. I already feel like a misfit at times, but the older mom thing might make me feel more so. It is hard lacking connection with anyone in my same situation. I am totally blissful with my child, we do fun and educational things daily in country and city, things that most kids never get to do, but get a little scared, also that she is an only child, and most likely will be. We also have very little family support, as they live far away, which is a bit hard on my little family, too. I did have a career, graduate school, the whole enchilada, but now I want to simply be a nurturing stay-home mom and never want to go back to my career. In fact, trying to find ideas for a new one!

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Posted 31 October 2011


Stephanie, 39, Winnipeg, Canada 

I have been with my partner for 3 years (now engaged).  When we met I said I was done with having more kids and he said he was ok with that.  Recently he told me he would like to have one of his own.  I have 2 from a previous marriage (ages 11 and 9) and everyone gets along great.

He is younger than me (10 years).  I understand his wanting a child and I have always wanted 5 kids but my age really concerns me now .  I would like to hear from others that have had to make this decision.  Weighing age and possible complications vs the miricle of a baby.

On a side note:  I am healthy, but have alot of stress from my ex.

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Posted 17 October 2011


Sooz, 42, Melbourne, Australia

I am 42 and have been doing IVF for a year. I would like to hear from any heavy 40+ ladies who have conceived. I am healthy, but a chunky monkey!

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Posted 30 September 2011


Donna, 43, Maryland, US

I just turned 43 and my fiance is 49. Neither of us have any children yet. We are planning to get married this year and are also trying to conceive. We've tried 3 times within the past 6 months and I believe I am getting pregnant (I haven't tested myself because I wait first to see if my period will come), but I have some pregnancy symptoms right away and then lose them very early - within 15 days.  I believe this is due to low progesterone, but I haven't had a doctor discuss this with me yet. We have an appointment with my third obgyn doctor and I'm hoping to get some information and not shuffled off to a fertility clinic instead. I have nothing against fertility clinics when the time comes, but I feel there are other less intense things to try first. I try new things constantly to improve my health, but unfortunately I have autoimmune hypothyroidism that I think has led to other hormonal and various health issues, including depression.

I'm very interested in diet, herbs and vitamins and would like to try those before fertility treatments.
I am looking for other women who are also interested in these topics. I'm sometimes ambivalent about having children at this late age and my mood disorder worries me too. I don't want to pass that onto children and I also worry about my ability to handle them at this age. I'm looking for someone I can communicate with openly and exchange information, encouragement and support.

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Posted 30 September 2011


Didi, 42, Cameroon, Africa

I'm 42 and have tried to get pregnant for 10 years. I've finally turned to IVF.

I would like to get in touch with those who, like me, have struggled and finally made it.

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Posted 9 September 2011


Jennifer, 40, Oklahoma, US

Hi, I'm Jennifer and I am 40-years-old.  I'm from Oklahoma born and raised. I have been happily married for 12 years. I have 3 children 17, 10 and 7. I enjoy photography, reading, pen paling, texting, camping, fishing, Cub Scout outings with my son and soccer practices with my 10-year-old daughter and 17-year-old daughter also.

I prefer writing to women only between the ages of 38-50  to talk about life's struggles and our children.

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Posted 31 May 2011


Dawn, 47, UK

Hi I’m Dawn. I have just turned 47 and had my third child, a little girl on March 31st 2011.

I live in Worcestershire, England and I am looking to find some friends who have a new baby and are around the same age as myself.

I have two other children aged 25 and 23.

I have lots of interests including reading and travelling but my main interest now is my new baby girl.

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Posted 21 May 2011


Mary, 43, Calgary, Canada

I am in Calgary, Canada and I am 43 years old and so is my husband. We are currently 20 weeks’ pregnant with a healthy baby boy!! We conceived through IVF on our first try after over 3 years of trying which included 2 miscarriages and three tries of IUI. This little angel will be the first one for both of us. He will most likely our only angel even though we do still have one egg frozen.

I want to let other would be moms out there know that it is possible. They gave my husband and I only an 8 to 10% chance of getting pregnant and then if we got pregnant we had a 50% chance of losing our baby before 12 weeks. We beat the odds and I know that others can too.

I too am looking for other women who are in there forties who like me, are new moms and/or first time moms or moms to be.

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Posted 4 April 2011


Sawda, 40, Dakar, Senegal

I am from Senegal.  I lived in Michigan for 13 years before returning to Africa (Senegal).  I miscarried in October 2010.  It was very hard for me!  My husband and I are trying to conceive since we got married last year.  We are both so looking forward to having a baby!  I hope that it'll happen very soon! I'd like to hear from other women who are trying to have a baby. 

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Posted 23 March 2011


Cas, 49, London, UK

I am an older mother, aged 49 and my children are  24,18 and 5 years.  My son was born when I was 43 and he is lovely. Now I dedicate my time to my family and my art career.  Although my son´s school should be an opportunity to make friendships I too find it difficult to engage with the younger mothers.

I wonder there are any older mothers in London. It would be great to speak to another mother with similar a experience.

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Posted 14 March 2011


Claire, 39, New Hampshire, US

I am going to be 40 in April and my husband of almost 10 years will be 38 in May.  We have just begun the IVF process and are excited.  I have a 14-year-old daughter from my 1st marriage and my husband has no children of his own.  We have found some people very supportive and others saying “You are too old.  You will be 60 when your child is 20”.  I am looking to find a place to share my thoughts with other “older” moms.  Thanks!

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Posted 21 February 2011


Meredith, 45, Augusta, Georgia, US (Updated 19 February 2011)

I turn 46 in April and my surprise baby is due via C-section March 28th. It’s been a pretty easy pregnancy despite discomfort of weight gain! My baby was breech for the last couple of weeks, but she turned last week. Her name is Mary Margaret, and I cannot wait to hold her.

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I am 45-years-old and am 7 weeks' pregnant. I have been married for 2 years and have an only child (age 12) from a previous marriage. I had my ultrasound recently and heard the healthy heart beat. My husband is 52. The baby is due the first week of April (I turn 46 then).  I would love to connect with other moms age 45 and older who have delivered healthy babies. Since there was only 1 in 100 chance I would conceive, I quit taking birth control medication.  We are very excited about the baby, but I am scared to death to be pregnant at my age. My prior delivery was by c-section, and I was so sick the whole time. Praying for a smoother ride this time. I see a high risk doctor on Sept 16th. I can’t believe you can now learn the sex of a child at 12 weeks! So much new technology.

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Posted 18 August 2010


Cal, 45, Australia

I am 45 and 9 weeks pregnant with my 5th child. This baby is due 3 days before my 46th birthday.  It was a huge shock. My older children are 23, 20, 18 and 13. I also have three step children under 14. My partner is five years younger than me. Since I told him four weeks ago he has not mentioned it again but expressed that this is definitely not what he wants. He is waiting for my decision. He has, however, been extremely loving and attentive.  I will have this baby provided all is fine (I am having CVS in two weeks). As there is no discussion he is unaware of this.  I risk losing him but I am independently financially able to go alone. I don't want to, and would rather share the journey with him, but willing to go it alone anyway. I am fit and healthy but having trouble finding good resources on tips to optimize my chances of a normal and healthy pregnancy at 45.  

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Posted 19 February 2011


Yvette, 44, Canada

I landed on your site and I wish to join the folks whom are trying to conceive after 40. I am 44-years-old. My husband is 40. We have been married for 9 years. We are on our path towards IVF.  I have endometriosis and as a result my tubes are blocked. 9 years ago I learned my husband and I had conceived, but the pregnancy was ectopic. We were both devastated. My left tube was removed. After seeing an IVF consultant, I was told my FSH levels were high. I was told that I may be in menopause. Right now I feel down and I wish to hear words of encouragement and advice with regard to my options i.e. herbs, vitamins etc.

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Posted 16 February 2011


Ruth, 44, Australia

My name is Ruth, I have been a widow for almost 11 years until I meet my partner this year.  I have a 10-year-old son from my late husband.  I’m 44 and have just found out that I’m pregnant... we very happy.  My partner doesn’t have any children of his own. I am a little concerned to be honest but we are all happy about it... apart from my hormones are all over the place...Really up and down like a yoyo... Has anyone else experienced similar sensations?

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Amy, 40, Tulsa, OK, US

I am 40 years old, never considered having a family of my own as being an option.  I did school, more school, then pursued a career and travels before settling down.  My husband and I have been married 18 months, not having used birth control the whole time. He has two teenage sons from his first marriage and now we are really trying to have our own child.  We've begun initial visits with a fertility specialist, who said my hormones and ovaries look good for my age. My husband's sperm are borderline effective in terms of motility and shape.  She has recommended a sperm defragmentation test....any word on if that would be helpful info? I want to start with artificial insemination but the cost is admittedly at little much.

I'm feeling overwhelmed and sad that a pregnancy may never happen for me.  Any encouraging words, advice or stories would be helpful.  Or just someone to listen to me vent. Reading other's stories are already a big help. Society here sometimes makes me feel (or, I let myself feel) not so good about myself since I didn't start having kids in my mid 20s. 

Best wishes to everyone.

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Posted 30 November 2010


Frances, 48, Auckland, New Zealand

Dear friends, I wanted to acknowledge Jan because I can remember earlier in my pregnancy and for about one year later I really wanted to talk with other older mums with similar experiences. It was at times lonely and although my whanau (family) were all around me supporting me 110 percent, I still had my moments.

Two years ago we got a huge shock when at 46-years-old I was pregnant with our third child.  My husband Steve of 30 years thought I was joking when I told him, and my kids who were 26 and 27 years at the time were also stunned. 

Baby was conceived and born naturally; he was 9lb and it was really sore. Took afew days for all the swelling to go away.  I am a big women and at the time I was 120kg. Today I am 92kg and going down.

Baby is now two-years-old he has a bit of a Kingly kinship amongst the whanau (family) and friends; he is special and God is good.

We have our days, but that’s life. We both continue to work full time. Baby enjoys childcare and we are pressing on.

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Posted 20 November 2010


Sharrie, 40, Texas, US

I am looking for a penpal for my journey to become a mom for the 2nd time. My husband (age 47) and I have a 5-year-old daughter and want to try naturally for a 2nd baby, starting this October 2010. I am so excited but scared due to my health. I look extremely fit and healthy,  but my knee is very arthritic from a motorcycle accident at age 16. I know that it is nothing compared to some, but it still concerns me to carry a baby and work full-time with a bad knee. I'm overall very positive and excited to try. We had considered adoption and still may adopt.

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Posted 25 September 2010


Susan, 43

I have 3 children, aged 15, 13 and 9 to a previous marriage and my eldest has a physical disability and is in a wheelchair. After much consideration, my partner (aged 52) and I decided to try and have a child of our own, conceived and miscarried in Feb this year and now again recently. I was in a state of total angst and could not see a way forward with the last pregnancy; the fear of disability due to our ages(I am a physio and work in disability), becoming a mother all over again, the changes it would cause to our relationship and the tiredness. I reached out for counselling and wanted to terminate and was not told that these feelings can be normal and they do pass. Instead, I went with my strength in rejecting this baby and terminated. The remorse is unbearable; the anger and the hurt I have caused my partner. If we did try again we will know what to expect and to stay strong. I do still worry about our ages and whether I will get pregnant again after a termination at my age. Any others out there who have done the same insane thing?

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Posted 6 September 2010


Samantha, 45

I am 45-years-old and trying to conceive.  I have been trying for a year. The stress of the situation is affecting me a lot. Every month there seems to be something that occurs to interrupt the calm necessary for the most optimum time to get pregnant. I don´t know what to do.  I feel like I don't have any control. Why did this happen to me? My mother and cousin had babies at 40 or a little over and I can't.

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Posted 4 August 2010


Anna, 45, Sweden

I am 45, Dh 50. I have 3 children of my own aged  23, 19 and 16, but Dh has none of his own and we so desire to have a child together.

I have pcos and I have been trying to conceive for the past two years. I would love to meet/write to other mums in a similar situation and would also like to know about natural herbs and vitamins to help older women conceive, because I would like to try natural methods.

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Posted 1 August 2010


Josanne, 46, Nr Manchester, UK

Hi, I'm 12 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. My youngest is 24 and eldest 26. I am married to my 2nd husband who has 2 daughters of his own, but we do not have any between us...until now! I was amazed and honestly so shocked to find myself pregnant as I assumed I was 'past it'! Ha, ha. Not so, it seems.

I have yet to have my first scan, which hopefully will be very imminent as when I contacted the ultrasound dept they had no referral from my doctor! I have since contacted the surgery about this. I am really concerned about the possible complications related to pregnancy in older mums.

I would love to have some contact with anyone in a similar situation for some support and friendship.

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Posted 11 July 2010


Lori, 41, Chicago, US

Hello! My husband and I would love to connect with other mature parents. We have one 7-month-old son and live near Chicago, IL. I work very part-time as a hairdresser and my husband works full-time in construction.  Our interests are hiking, swimming, music, blowing bubbles, having fun with friends
and visiting the animals at the pet store!

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Posted 9 July 2010


Anna Maria, 42, New York USA

Currently going through 2nd IVF cvcle. Egg retrieval tomorrow 6/17/2010. First IVF cycle ended in chemical miscarriage, although everything had gone very well : fertilized two A quality eggs and responded very well to all meds. Just wondering, can this really happen at my age? Need SUPPORT. I am an emotional wreck!! Would love to speak to someone.

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Posted 16 June 2010


Lisa, 42, Quebec, Canada

Hi my name is Lisa. I'm 42 yrs old (soon to be 43) and had a tubal reversal done 5 days ago.

My boyfriend and I have decided we'd like to have a baby together.  He has never been married and has no children, he is 12 yrs my junior has never been married and has no children. I am divorced and have 2 wonderful sons, age 15 (soon 16) and 17 yrs old. They're both supportive of our decision, which definitely helps the process.

I have to admit, I'm scared (terrified). People think I'm crazy, I didn't think so until now, but all the comments and remarks have gotten me down, not to mention feeling emotionally drained after the surgery and during recovery.

I would love to chat with someone who has gone through a tubal reversal at my age, anyone who has a positive approach to wanting to get pregnant at my age and not make me feel like I'm absolutely crazy!

Thank you and I wish you all the best of luck ... to happy & healthy babies :)

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Posted 14 June 2010


Cellina, 48, Maryland, US

I am 48-years-old. I remarried in 2007 and my husband is 55-years-old. He lives in Africa but he will soon join me in USA, He has four children before and I have three of my own, but as soon as he gets here in February 2010, we will like to conceive. Please tell me the best fertility medication for my age and his age. I would be very interested to chat with other ladies who are in my position. Thank you.  Thanks and God Bless.

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Posted 28 May 2010


Linda, 49, UK

I am 49-years-old and contemplating a pregnancy using donor eggs. This is likely to take place in the month!! I am very excited at the prospect of becoming a mum again although I am also terrified regarding people's reactions at someone my age becoming pregnant. It is a bit of double wammy because I'm not 100% comfortable with donor conception.

It would be great to speak to someone who has conceived at my age and or hear how they have coped with all the negativity, which I know I will be up against.

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Posted 24 May 2010


Deni, 41, Taiwan

I'm four years older than my husband.  We've been married for 6 years. I'll be 42 later on this year.  We have been trying for about 4 years now...it was our second year when we got the devastating blow that my husband had low motility and low sperm count.  With time running out for me this is not the news we wanted to hear.  It also doesn't help when all of our friends have conceived and my husband's twin brother is now having his second child.  I've tried everything.  I doused my husband with vitamins and he exercises and while his sperm count improved a little it's still not even enough for IVF.  The endocrinologist that we met was so blunt and just told us to "forget about it".  I'm absolutely devastated. Infertility treatment, while cheaper than in the US, is not covered by insurance here in Taipei.  I know that I'm not special and there are other women like me but it still hurts.  To have a beautiful relationship and not be able to extend our love is so sad.   Anyhow good luck and many blessings to everyone else out there who are trying.  God bless!

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Posted 14 May 2010


Madie, District Heights, Maryland, US

I am a 52-year-old that might be pregnant. I am excited!  My mate and I have never discussed a baby since we both have adult children of our own and grandchildren. But for the past two weeks I have been going through every emotion and symptom of pregnancy.

There are a few catches though; I had my tubes done 19 years ago and my friend was fixed as well. I did see my gyn yesterday and he said there was nothing there. However, I have only been active since March, so I can't be that far along if indeed I am expecting. Really need an older/new mom to talk to.

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Posted 26 April 2010


Dawn, 41, New York, USA

I'm 41 years old and newly married for the first time (almost 2 yrs). It just shows that you can find true love at any age. I have been trying to conceive my first child since we wed and it has been very difficult. I underwent 2 IUI's, 2 IVF's and 2 Frozen Embryo transfers. I finally got pregnant only to lose the baby at almost 6 weeks on Christmas of 2009. I was distraught to say the least. I have dreamt of having a family since I was a little girl and I pray constantly that God will bless me with a healthy child. I am trying naturally with the help of Fertility Herbs - hopefully this will help. I would love to connect with other women with situations similar to mine.

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Posted 19 April 2010


Sherriane, 44, New Jersey, US

My name is Sherriane and I am 44 years old.  My husband and I got married 31/2years ago and have been trying to conceive.  We have gone through several rounds of IVF, to have been pregnant once, but unfortunately miscarried.  I absolutely love this site because after all of the procedures, the only reason everyone gives me is my chronological age, for not getting pregnant. Nothing else.  I just believe that it has not been my time due to outside stressors.  Life, is life and I believe that we are going to have our baby. It's nice to see that I'm not alone with my belief that after 40 you can have a healthy baby.  I would love to chat with others who are also in the same kind of situation.

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Posted 11 April 2010


Mandy, 40, Cambridge, UK

I am a student in Cambridge UK I have recently just got married to a Ghanian man who I love very much. He has no children, but I have 4 from a previous relationship, which ended badly, so I was sterilised. My new husband now would like to try for a baby, which I would also love to do, but this would mean having my sterilisation reversed or fertility treatment. We are currently in the process of seeing a specialist to determine which course of action would be best for us, as I am 40 and my husband is 43. I would just really like to connect with other mums and dads in similar situations who could advice me and perhaps give us some hope.

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Posted 21 February 2010


Julie, 49, Australia

I was 42 and single (and still am) with a steady full time job when I found out I was pregnant. The relationship I was in ended shortly after. I had no idea how I was going to manage. All I knew was that I wanted this child. I was in tears for most of my pregnancy but fortunately I had a healthy baby boy. I had to go back to work full time when he was 8 months old. I felt guilty leaving my boy in child care at first but he has turned out to be such a bright happy sociable child I needn't have worried. He is nearly seven now and the light of my life. I would love to talk to other "older" mums in similar circumstances.

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Posted 17 January 2009


Lisa, 45, London, UK

I was always a bit of a “career woman” and never expected to have a family. But I met my husband in 2000, had a miscarriage in 2001 and I had my first (and only) son when I was 39, in 2003. He is now 6 and its all great - we are a happy family and I feel I am very lucky and grateful.

Sometimes I feel like the oldest mum at the school gates so it’s nice to read about other mums that aren’t in their 20s. Both times I conceived quite easily, to my amazement, but I don’t think I’ll have any more now I am 45 so he will be an only child with older parents which worries me sometimes.

I’m working on a bit of a weight issue at the moment too: don’t want him to be embarrassed by me and also, as an older mum, feel I ought to make an effort to look after my health more. 

I would love to be in touch with anyone in any kind of similar circumstance to chat, support  and share thoughts generally.

Best wishes to all.

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Posted 11 January 2010


Kellie, 42, Australia

I am 42 years old, married to a wonderful man who is 48 and we have a beautiful 8 month old daughter as the result of IVF (3rd attempt – success from a frozen embryo). I didn’t meet my husband until later in life, we married when I was 38 and decided to try for a baby straight away. We fell pregnant 5 months after the wedding but sadly miscarried. Then, after trying again for a time, went to IVF leading to the birth of our beautiful girl. However, I now find myself with a dilemma. I have three embryos still in the freezer and am not sure what to do. The plan was always for just one baby that we could cherish and enjoy - because of our ages, the fact that my husband already has two boys from his previous marriage, energy levels, work, finances etc.  But I find myself very upset about the options for the remaining 3 embryos which I am told are (1) use (2) destroy (3) donate to science for dissection etc. Apparently in the State I live in we don’t have the option of donating for adoption. So what am I to do? I feel terrible guilt about destroying them as I just need to look into the face of my beautiful daughter to see what can spring from those frozen embryos. But there is no way we could have 3 more children (that’s of course if they all ‘took’). We are considering using them to try to achieve 1 more child but then even having the implanting is so expensive and I have used up all of my maternity leave with this baby so can’t afford to take more than say 3 to 6 months off with the next one (I’m currently on 12 months leave so won’t have to put bub into care until she turns 1)…..and then will I have the energy at my age to chase after 2 bubs when I am working full time? And how will my husband cope given we had agreed on just the 1 baby even though he says he is OK about it? I would love to correspond with anyone who has been through this kind of dilemma. 

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Posted 10 January 2010


Karen, 47, Qatar

I am 47 and told I could not have children at my age. My story is one of trials, deception, and tribulation as I have no option for Donor Eggs as my husband is Muslim.  We can’t even adopt.  I am miserable and find it hard to get out of the bed daily.  I thought if I could share my story and my hope with someone and they me than I can survive my fate.  Thanks for this website it has given all of us hope.

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Posted 17 December 2009


Bonny, 44, Florida, US (Updated 8 December 2009)

On November 9th, I gave birth to a HEALTHY baby boy!  He is bright, alert and strong.  It just goes to show you that even with my having a 1 in 6 chance of having a baby with a deformity that the stats can still be wrong.  And the doctor and gen counselor seemed so sure of themselves!  If I were younger I might have been more intimidated by their confidence. But, I'm glad I didn't listen and risk losing this baby with an amnio. 

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I live in the US (Florida) and I was wondering if any of the other ladies who write to you have had experiences such as mine.  Here is what's going on:

I just turned 44, and I'm 3 months' pregnant.  We were so happy at first, but, on my doctor's office recommendation, I had an Nuchal Tranlucency Scan (NT) and blood work done to measure proteins and Hcg in my blood.  I never had, nor was offered this screening with my first child at 35, and I blindly went into it without doing any research on the internet. I have since read multiple stories on various web sites of women recieving false positives on these screens. 

My NT reading was 2.9mm and I was told that they consider anything above 2.5mm higher risk for Down's.  Just based on the scan, they had me talk to the gen counselor who was really pushing for me to have an amnio.  I told her I would rather have the initial blood work first.  Only then, did she give me the paperwork to get the blood drawn.

Well, got my blood work today and they gave me a 1:6 chance of having a DS baby!  The gen counselor went over the readings. She said they like a ratio of 1.0 for the Papp-A and Hcg.  My Papp-A was 1.0, but my Hcg was 1.4 (not that much over 1, IMO).  She basically said that because of my age (she said that phrase over and over during the conversation) that I would probably screen positive for DS and other deformities no matter what!  So why did I even bother with this screening?  It's got me all worked up and nervous and I feel like they are just pushing me to have an amnio so they can collect that data!   

Funny thing too, I just switched to another OBGYN and he said he considers an NT of 3.0 or above higher risk (not the 2.5 mm the lab uses). 

Have you had any other ladies feel like they are being pushed into an amnio or cvs due to this NT scan? 

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Posted 14 May 2009


Sam, 43, Australia

I am 43 and have fallen pregnant. I was told that my chances were very slim at achieving this, and would like to correspond with anyone else that may have successfully fallen pregnant in their 40's and how they have found pregnancy at this age. I am now 11 weeks, although am suffering some pretty awful all day morning sickenss. Am happy to correspond with anyone who may also be in 40's and trying to fall pregnant.

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Posted 25 November 2009


Lisa, 47, The Netherlands

Hi, I am Lisa, 47 years old. My husband (50) and I are trying to have a baby for about ten years.

In 2005 we tried  ICSI two times. Unfortunately we did not get pregnant. My husband’s sperm quality was the reason for the ICSI.

I have still regular periods and that’s one of the reasons we are still hoping for a baby. We are feeling very alone in our wish for a baby; people and doctors often say you're too old, you have to accept etc., but that is so hard when every month again I feel that I am ovulating and that I am still fertile. Perhaps there are people in the same position as we are who can support us in our search of a good doctor. Perhaps a doctor in Traditional Chinese Medicine because I understood that that kind of medicine increases your chances. Can anyone give us some helpful information? We are living in the Netherlands but we are willing to travel to another country. Thanks in advance.

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Posted 21 November 2009


Doreen, 47, Wilburton, Oklahoma, US

I am scheduled for a tubal reversal on October 3rd and would like to have pen pals of mothers trying to conceive after 40 and those who have. The support would be great.  I am 47 years old, recently remarried and happy for the first time in several years. I have two grown children and my husband has one. We would love to have a child of our own and hope that God will bless us with this wish; he has already blessed us with so much. We have already had all the tests and my menstrual cycle is regular. Looking for contact with other mothers in their 40’s.

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Posted 28 September 2009


Thulsi, 46, Malaysia

I am a stay at home mum to 2 boys 5 and 6 years. I quit my job 6 years ago when I was pregnant with my firstborn as I underwent a really difficult pregnancy. I conceived only via IVF and successful on the 3rd attempt. I was carrying twins but I miscarried one fetus at the 16th week. After that I was advised to quit working and literally lie down throughout the duration of my pregnancy. However my son decided to come out on the 27th week. I am 46 now and have a hectic time at home running after 2 very very active boys. I would love to connect with other mothers who had children in their 40s as I find myself really exhausted after an entire day with the boys. I would love tips on how to keep my stamina up. My older boy has ADHD and he takes up 90% of my time with the children. When I have some time to myself, I enjoy reading and cooking and baking.

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Posted 17 September 2009


Denise, 41, Canada

I am a 41 year old single mother living in Toronto, Canada.

After a painful divorce, I decided to become a single mother by choice at the age of 39. I used an open identity sperm donor and luckily it worked on my first try. Now I have a beautiful and healthy 15 month old girl. I am in contact with my donor and he lives in the United States. Anyway, I am contemplating having another child. I would be very interested to chat with other ladies who are in my position. Thank you.

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Posted 24 August 2009


Deborah, 52, Albuquerque, US

I am 52. I have had a rough life, and, though I prefer not to go into detail of the last 50 years, I am finally at a point in my life where I am stable and healthy. I just married a wonderful man this past January who matches me emotionally, spiritually and physically. He has never been married and has no children. I have been married before and have two grown children. I cannot shake the deep feeling that we are to conceive and have a child. Of course, to try and talk with most about this brings ridicule and derision. My periods have been irregular….approx every 2 to 2-1/2 months. Then this past January I believe that I actually did conceive and lost the pregnancy in March due to the extreme fear and stress….I had no one to talk with and no support. Even my doctor was treating me with disdain. I have not had a period since March, but have been, for the past few weeks, noticing pregnancy symptoms again. Once again, I am afraid. Well, this time I decided to take action. I talked to my husband and let him know what is going on. (I had not shared any of this with him Jan-March). And I searched out this site again. I had seen your site and actually emailed you at the beginning of the year but when I lost the pregnancy had asked you to remove my contact info. I lost hope and I gave up. I will not do that this time. I have been researching healthy support through diet, herbs and exercise. And I want contact and support with others who understand and can talk with me about my fears and desires.

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Posted 18 August 2009


Lisa, 42, Perth, Western Australia 

Hi - I turn 42 in a couple of weeks.  I have been undecided about having a baby for several reasons.  This indecision has been a cause of a lot of internal stress for me and many sleepless nights.  I need to decide one way or another because of my age.  The main reasons for not trying for one up until now is 1) my health hasn’t been the best – I’ve suffered with insomnia (I think largely due to depression, internal unhappiness, lack of direction) for many years and this has left me in a state of constant fatigue.  2)  I’ve never been 100% certain about my partner.  He wasn’t the man I dreamed he’d be with, but he is a very loving, positive and caring man who I know would be there for me and the more I have  been with him the more I have grown to love him.   3) I’ve never really had anything to do with children.  My children have been my animals.

My two brothers had kids but they live in another country.  Up until this point, I’ve always felt my purpose was to look after the animals (I am a vet nurse)
BUT, this last year, I guess because I have seen a lot of mums and their bubs at the swimming pool. It has stirred up this inner longing to want to experience that and to have my own.  Sometimes it brings a tear to my eyes and I start to feel really sad that I could miss out and never experience that.  But then I see a group of teenagers, who are swearing, pants down around their bums and seem to have no respect for anything that I get put off having one. One of my main fears of having a baby I guess is that I wouldn’t have the energy to cope with a young one.  The other one is that my health could worsen - now I can just lie down if I haven’t slept, whereas if I had a baby I wouldn’t have that luxury.  Also, of course, the chance of having a child with a disability.  I know im looking on all the negatives here and the 'what ifs' but fear has been driving the car up to this point.

I would like maybe to hear from any first time older mums who maybe had some health condition and find out if they coped ok; if they are truly happy that they had the baby.  Or any first time older mums in general who can let me know of their experiences; if having a baby was everything they wanted, or if maybe sticking with a pet and having the freedom to do whatever may have been a better choice. Or if you know of any older parents whose children are now teenagers - and their experiences.

I’ve thought about fostering/adopting but I don’t think it would be quite the same if it’s not your own. I also know there is a chance I will not be able to conceive naturally, in which case fate will have made my decision as I don’t want to go down the IVF route.
I’m thinking that maybe that’s what I need to do - try for a baby and leave it to Fate whether I have one or not!!

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Posted 12 August 2009


Catherine, 40, Florida, US

Hi, I am 40 years old and will be turning 41 in two months.  My husband and I have been married for just over a year and began ttc last fall.  We are trying for a first baby for the both of us.  Between learning about my cycle and his travel for work schedule, there have probably only been about six months so far that I've had a chance to get pregnant.  I recently went through some fertility testing and discovered that I have a septate uterus.  This isn't supposed to impact fertility, but puts me at an even higher risk of miscarriage.  I've just scheduled surgery for the end of August.  I'd like to be in touch with someone who is (or has) gone through trying to get pregant for the first time after the age of 40.

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Posted 24 July 2009


Laura, 43, Sydney, Australia

I just turned 43 and my new husband of 8 months and I are waiting to find out if we've been lucky enough to fall pregnant on our first go at IVF!  I'm really positive and feel very optimistic at this stage and can't wait to "get my teeth" into it, so to speak!  I have a 13-year-old son from my first marriage (who's "not sure he's ready for another baby just yet" - his father had a little girl 3 years ago!).  Hubby and I are doing yoga, meditation and acupuncture and have found it helps a lot with the stress of IVF!  We live in Sydney, Australia and can't wait to continue this amazing journey. I also have a long term mental illness and will have to stop taking my meds around week 18 so if anyone else has had to do this I would appreciate any tips!  I'm more worried about being a lonely older mum than anything else (like everyone else my friends stopped having babies years ago or are half my age!).

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Posted 10 July 2009


Amy, 42, Portsmouth, US

Hi, I am 42 years old, and I have two teenage children (13 and 15).  I remarried after their father died, and I have been trying to conceive naturally for 3 years.  I need a little inspiration!  I am healthy, with excellent FSH and other “numbers”, a very regular cycle but the doctors still say IVF is the way.  I’d like to hear what other women think.  I did have a luteal phase defect and I think I resolved it without progesterone cream using the research from a team of physicians in Japan.  I wrote the authors and I followed their protocol of 1500 mg of l-arginine 4 times per day (taken with carbonated liquid) after ovulation and had my progesterone levels checked 7 days after ovulation, and they were perfect!  I am now trying the protocol they suggested of melatonin (3 g day 1-ovulation) and 900 IU vitamin E.  This is supposed to improve egg quality.  I am wondering if other women have tried this and with any success?  Have you heard of this?

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Posted 6 July 2009


Elizabeth, age 45, Washington State, USA

Hi, I am single and have decided that I would really like to start a family. Most of my relatives have passed away and I am starting to realize that one day my current family will all be gone. I have been working with a fertility clinic and am getting ready to see a high risk OB/GYN to see what kind of shape I am in to carry a baby.  I am just in the starting stages, picking out a sperm donor and looking into all my options.  What I have been most surprised about in this day and age is how negative many people have been.  Personally, I feel that it is each person's own decision which path to follow in life and we should try to support each other as much as possible. The counselor at the fertility clinic even told me my child would hate me because I had him or her when I was so old. A friend of mine just berates me every time she sees me, telling me how it won't work and how the child will have so many problems. I realize that there are additional challenges now, but I think as this site tells us it can happen with a good outcome. So I really just wanted to reach out and be a positive support to some people out there in the same circumstance as me. I figure we can all use extra friends especially at this point. By the way the counselor was the only bad experience I have had at the clinic everyone else has been great so I am trying to dismiss her comments. Anyway, I wish everyone well on their journeys and would love to hear from some people.  Best of luck !

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Posted 29 June 2009


Diane, 40, Melbourne, Australia

I'm Diane , Im single 40 (41 end of year ) and have decided to stop waiting for Mr Right and have a baby alone via donor. I have the rest of my life to find love and not much longer to have a child.  I would love to speak to any ladies in a similar position and make some great new friendships.

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Posted 20 June 2009


Robbin, 40, Saskatchewan, Canada

I never thought I could have children.  I have polycystic ovarian disease, and my husband and I tried everything there is to conceive while I was in my 20’s.  We ended up adopting, and I was very happy with that decision.  My son is 11 years old now.

Since then I have continued to treat my PCOD, and have been on the pill trying to regulate my period.  My husband and I split up 2 years ago, and it was harder than I could have imagined.  This winter I was incredibly ill.  I neglected to go to the doctor afraid of the news I would get.  I figured this was my condition coming home to roost and I feared the ‘C’ word with all of my heart.  I went to the physician on April 9, 2009 and was told that what I thought was a uterine tumor was beating at 160 beats per minute!

I’m expecting (18 weeks and 5 days now), single, and thrilled!  And terrified…

Is there anyone else like me out there?  40, single, and pregnant.  I would love to talk. 

To all you other moms out there, good luck, good luck.  I know what it’s like, and wish you all the best.

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Posted 25 April 2009


Debbie, 46, UK

I remarried and had a little boy when I was 42. He is now four-years-old. My son was born with Down's Syndrome and I would love to chat to any mums out there who feel as lonely as I do. I am now 46 and all my friends stopped having children years ago, so I do not have much in common with them now. I find it difficult to meet new mums as they all seem to be so much younger than me and on a different wave length.

I would love to chat to any mum out there either with a Down's Syndrome child, or just a mum feeling as lonely as I do. I also have a daughter 21 and a son 19.

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Posted 24 March 2009


Karen, 44, Edinburgh, Scotland

I live in the Edinburgh area, I'm 44, have two girls 25 & 21 from my previous marriage. Now remarried, I have just one unsucessful course of IVF, although I managed to produce three eggs of which two fertilised but did not progress any further.  We are preparing for another try in April.  I believe acupuncture and reflexology are helpful so I'm going to start this today.  I'm looking for some inspiration from someone who may have been or currently is in my situation.

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Posted 6 March 2009


Simonne, 40, Canada

After several long term dating relationships, I am now beginning the process of having a baby on my own. Feelings on a daily basis range from thrilled to scared. Many people I have talked to, although well meaning, have been very negative (especially regarding the health aspects, for the baby, since I would be having it at 40 / 41). I would love to share and talk to people in similar situations.  Either those of you going through or have gone through the various events leading up to birth and beyond. It would be so great talking to people in the same situation.

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Posted 2 March 2009


Jeanne 42, Australian living in Singapore

I'm approaching 43, and undergoing fertility treatment in Singapore. I am onto my fourth round of IUI's at Singapore General and find it gets easier in some ways as you go along. My husband and I have committed to 10 attempts this way, and I guess we will talk after that to decide whether it is as far as we can go emotionally, financially etc or whether we pursue adoption or IVF. If it was me, I would prefer to adopt than go through IVF, but that is just a personal preference as I have seen a friend go through IVF. I think you can get to a point where you will try absolutely anything to have a long awaited for child.

I'm not too sure that the odds of 3-5 times more chance of success is correct for IVF over IUI in the case of women over 40. I think those odds are relevant to women in their late 20's-40's? According to the research I've done and my understanding is that IUI offers as much of a chance, if not slightly more, in the 40+ age bracket. My obstetrician confirmed this when we discussed our options. Unfortunately, it is right that there is only an ever decreasing window of opportunity after 42, but I sometimes think this is over-exaggerated as I am constantly hearing of women who have done it. I've read that over 40's need more IUI's than a younger women, to achieve a positive outcome, and that is also assuming that they are otherwise healthy. I guess it is largely down to luck and staying positive too. It is hard when you feel time is of the essence. I am secretly hoping I have enough time left to have two, but I would be over the moon if I could have just the one.

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Posted 24 February 2009


Ruth, 47, Australia

I am 47 and live in Australia. I have a 12 yr old girl from my first marriage. I wanted more but divorce put a stop to that. My wonderful 2nd husband (now 56) has 2 children from his first marriage (boy 27 & girl 21). He also wanted more children (had his vasectomy reversed) but divorce also put a stop to that. We met 4 yrs ago, married 3 yrs ago and knew we had no time for shilly-shallying. I had previously used natural family planning, so knew how to identify my fertile time. It was really easy and incredibly obvious when I was in my 30's but @ 44 I found it much more subtle with fertile-type-mucous only present for quite short periods. At anyrate, we applied ourselves with enthusiasm and I did everything I could to boost my health - multi-vitamins, Evening Primrose Oil capsules, folic acid, lots of sleep, no alcohol etc. After a few months I spoke to a naturopath who suggested I also take fish oil capsules which I did and BINGO I was pregnant (took 5 months). We had amniocentesis and 3D ultrasound at about 16 weeks - I was so scared but the results were all good. The specialist said that it was an absolute miracle that we had fallen pregnant; taking into account our ages and the vasectomy reversal. I belive it was God's will. My pregnancy was good, although I tired easily and had low blood pressure. On 24/3/07 I had a mid-wife assisted, normal labour and natural birth, although I did have a fairly substantial tear. Our long-awaited baby daughter had finally arrived. The mid-wife handed her to me and all I could say was "beautiful, beautiful, beautiful."

Now she is nearly 2 and I thank God every day. Mind you it hasn't been easy. She had reflux and sleep problems and I was glad she wasn't my first baby. I do not have the energy I used to have and I get incredibly tired. I attend a mothers group every week which I love but they are all in their 20's and early 30's and in their first marriage/relationship, so our lives are pretty different. I think I look a little younger than I am but I often try to conceal my age because plenty of people are quite negative. The other day I was shopping and a shop assistant called me "Nan."  I know it doesn't mean much at all but it left me feeling dispirited. We are far from the first people to be having children at this point in life. I also believe that it is completely natural to want to have a child with your husband. Nevertheless, I wish I knew some women my own age in similar situations. I feel foolish going to so-called "Young Mums" groups. I was very happy to find this website and would love to make connections with others. Children are a blessing to us. They are the cause of lots of hard work and heart-ache and joy. I would love to share some of that with you.

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Posted 18 February 2009


Nicole, 40, Australia

My name is Nicole and I live in Australia aged 40 at present.  I presently have 4 children - aged 17, 14, 11 and 12 months old.  Next month I will be turning 41.  Yes, still same husband.  Because of the gap between child 3 and 4 we decided to try for another.  So, our little one did not grow up alone.  I was very lucky and conceived naturally the first child in 3 months and the others in only one month.  Some fertility tips would be great.

Now though I have found that after weaning my youngest son slowly off the breast, but still feeding at night time.  My periods have returned, but have been a little odd.  After 30 years of periods being like clockwork and being approximately every 28 days and being able to pick when I was ovulating.  Now the last two periods were 5 weeks apart and we tried in January to conceive, but no luck.  After reading all the info about older mum's having so much trouble trying to conceive this has really freaked me out.  It would be great to touch base with other older mums and compare notes.

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Posted 28 January 2009


Jane, 42, Sydney, Australia

Your site is simply inspirationally and I have read it often in the last few months to curb my negative thoughts.  Congratulations on helping so many women; you are truly a shining star for all of us out here living in a society that does not yet accept older mothers.  It will one day; just as divorce was so condemned years ago. I have been through two fresh and one frozen IVF cycles without success so far.  When I look back on the stress I was under from a number of different areas in my life it is not surprising.  But it is now a new year and 2009 is going to be my year !!  I have made a number of changes and when I start my next cycle in a few weeks I will be in a much better frame of mind. I am 42, single and doing this alone with an anonymous donor sperm.

After the break down of my marriage 10 years ago I have done every singles event possibly to try and find a new relationship without success so I have decided to go it alone; should have started it years ago however hopefully I am not too late.  I desperately want to be a mother and share the rest of my life with a child; I will be considering donor eggs after another few fresh cycles. I would desperately like to meet other single women who are going through what I am.  Although I do have support there is nothing quite the same as sharing your life experience with someone in exactly the same position.  Mothers group are such a wonderful support for new mothers; is there a group for women (especially single women) to share thoughts and gain support.

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Posted 9 January 2009


Sarah, 44, York, UK (Updated 8 January 2009)

I would like to now share my news with you and all the other hopeful mum's of my age.  After a strange pregnancy, oedema in legs, arms, tummy etc and coccyx pain which did put a bit of a damper on it all I finally gave birth to a beautiful baby boy Alfie, weighing in at 8lb 10oz on the 29th October 2008.  He is absolutely gorgeous and is so loved by his big sisters!!!!  They did still give me a hard time right to the end of the pregnancy, but by the time I went in for my section, they were actually starting to worry about me and the baby and hoping everything would be ok.  It was, and my poor partner did not even get a look in on his own son for the first week or so as he was passed around 3 girls for cuddles etc. 

Now at 10 weeks old the smiles we are all receiving are so rewarding, how could they not all love him.   He is such a good little man and I am so grateful I have been given this chance to have this baby for my partner to experience fatherhood for himself!! At his 6 week check my GP asked me how I would cope going to toddlers etc with him as all the mums would be a lot younger, I pointed out I did not have two heads but I did have much experience to hand onto younger mothers and also pointed out to her that I was not the only mum over 40 giving birth at the time and maybe she should be more supportive rather then negative.

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It’s now a year since I have been with my partner and I started to try for a baby from last June when my Mirena coil was removed, took a while for my body to get back to normal and for periods to return monthly, but they finally did.  At Christmas a friend lent me a book on fertility, sort of a 'know your own body bible' really and this book was an eye opener and I found out lots of information that I did not know before, such as your time limit for conception is only 2-3 days a month (I did wonder how I actually managed to have my other children)!  But it started me on the journey of Natural Family Planning, taking my temperature each day, charting and watching for other signs of ovulation, I started charting on the first day of my period in February 2008 and to my utter surprise and shock by the end of the month I was pregnant!! www.fertilityuk.org/ is the website for the UK and very helpful too. 

I am now 9 weeks pregnant, and having my dating scan on Monday, I know we still have a long way to go, but I am feeling dreadful which of course is a great sign with sore boobs and sickness!!! Why do we forget this happens!!  If all goes well we intend to enjoy every minute of this baby and I consider myself so lucky.

As for my girls, the initial shock was a bit hard for them, but within days it was 'who would be naming the baby, who would be dressing the baby' etc so all 3 of my girls and one very bemused partner are there for me.

Again thanks for your support when I needed it and the website is so valuable too for all us over 40's who are more than capable of being perfect, loving, caring mothers.

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Posted 14 April 2008 (Updated 8 January 2009)


Bie, 50, Estonia

After a couple of myoma operations I am coming close to fifty - in January 2009. Most countries have the limit age 50 for giving donor children - but how to find info about good clinics and the countries that allow treatments of woman over 50 to get pregnant?

I live in Sweden and Estonia, and it´s getting late here in Estonia for me... Sweden is not possible at all. I am not very rich and cannot do it in US.

I go to a healthdoctor here in Tallinn - by the way their clinic wants more clients to do Ayurvedic cleansings. She tells me that it might still be possible to get pregnant with my own eggs. But doctors say it´s usually impossible.

This is a very difficult issue I know . But if you have any information I would be happy.

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Posted 23 December 2008


Corinne, 39, Boston, Massachusetts, US

Hello.  My name is Corinne and I came across you site during my research on having a baby at 40.  My husband Sam and I were just married this September and we are really wanting to conceive.  This Christmas I will be 39 and feel quite alone in the world of having a baby at 40.  That is, if I conceive and carry a full term healthy pregnancy.  It would be nice to connect with others who share in the same concerns and experiences.  Not having children before, I feels puts me in a complete different category, with many different feelings about it. I think it would be great to join your blog.Please be in touch.

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Posted 15 December 2008


Robin, 46, Kentucky, US

Hi! I am 46 years old and while I was in my 20's and 30's I tried fertility pills to get pregnant without any luck.  I have a 5 year old son whom we adopted and  am now finding myself again thinking about trying to concieve. (My son wants a sister and I miss the baby experience).  I hesitate not only because of my age but also due to the fact that I only have one kidney and no spleen, plus my younger sister gave birth to a Down's child 5 years ago and while he is wonderful, I worry about not being able to care for a special needs child as long as a younger mom would be able to. I would really like a non-biased opinion on this. Thanks.

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Posted 15 December 2008


Faye, 47, New Plymouth, New Zealand

Hi, My name is Faye. I am 47 with a 20 month old daughter. I live with my partner of 10 years. We each have two children to previous relationships. My oldest son is 26 and daughter is 23. I am interested in meeting/chatting with other mums my age either trying to conceive or in a similar situation to myself. Thanks.

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Posted 12 December 2008


Jo, 44, Sydney, Australia

After 5 painful years of TTC and multiple late first trimester miscarriages, I am 44 and 12 weeks' pregnant, conceived naturally. I had undiagnosed Hashimotos disease for the last year- 2 years and that may explain the infertility and multiple miscarriages.

I haven’t told anyone yet for fear of another miscarriage.

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Posted 12 December 2008


Mandy, 47, Middle East

I had been married before for 20 years to a man who could not have his own children and so we adopted two beautiful boys who are now 16 and 13. When I was 42 I remarried a man (also 42) who had had a vasectomy 15 years previous. As we had nothing to lose but everything to gain, he had a reversal of the operation and I conceived naturally within 6 months of the operation. Apart from the morning sickness (which I hated) I had a straight forward pregnancy and birth, apart from the fact that I was induced as I went over my due date by two weeks and my labour lasted for 25 hours. My son is the highlight of my life and a healthy, happy little boy who I treasure dearly.

Since his birth we have not used contraception, initially in the hope that we may be able to give him a younger sibling, but nothing happened and life carried on as normal, until recently, when out of the blue and totally unexpected I now find myself almost 6 weeks pregnant again, naturally, at the age of 47! It is a shock and my emotions are everywhere. I suffer terribly with that horrible nausea constantly and it does nothing to hinder my secret fears of having another healthy baby, I have been blessed once, but twice?

I am scared and feel alone and isolated. I did not have the amnio test in my last pregnancy as I gambled with fate, in the belief that what would be would be. Now though, I know that it is harder to cope with little ones at my age as I do not have the energy levels that I had with my older two children and living in the Middle East I do not have the same support as in the Western World.

I would love to hear from anyone who is or has been in a similar situation at my age and how their pregnancy went or is going. I feel younger than my years and I have always looked after myself, I just feel that I need a little support from people that understand my predicament of shock, excitment, anxiety, apprehension and worry and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Posted 17 November 2008


Marcela, 43, from Colombia, living in Singapore

I am 43 years old and looking forward to getting pregnant. I've gone through 7 I.U.I and my doctor has suggested IVF; she says chances will improve between 3-5 times. My major fear is to have an unhealthy baby. I have read that the risk is VERY much higher for women over 40 (even if my hormones level are still okay and me and my husband are also okay.)  This very much higher risk scares me very much and has made me consider adoption (and perhaps drop the IVF) even though I/we really prefer to have my/our own baby. I know everything in life has a risk but certainly this risk is higher for women over 40, and is not just "any" risk, it is a very important and rather a life-changing risk.  

I would like to get in contact with other women and ask them how have they overcome this fear (and if they had any fear at all) as I think that reading from their experiences might help me see this under a different perspective. Thank you so much.

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Posted 17 October 2008


Maggie, 48, US

I am 48 years old and my youngest is 15 and my oldest is 24.   I have 4 children and one ex-stepdaughter I consider my child, so I always say I have 5 children.    I have met a man who is 59 and have been wanting to have another child.   My fears are am I crazy for wanting a child at this age, will it be safe given our ages, and will my children, especially my 24 year old be embarrassed. I would really love any feedback from mothers who have conceived naturally at around the same age and regrets, if any.  I would like to know what are the chances for a healthy child at our ages?   My children do not plan on marriage and children anytime soon and so grandchildren are out of the question until I am in my late 50's or early 60's.

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Posted 13 October 2008


Suely, 43, from Brazil, living in Colorado Springs, US

Hello to all strong and wonderful after 40s mommies :) I remarried few years ago and we were happily surprised to find ourselves pregnant of our son who was born last year (July 2007). I had a little complication during pregnancy (placenta previa) and had to stay for the 3 last months of the pregnancy on the bed rest at the hospital. Baby was born at 35 weeks, very healthy and handsome :)...We are sooooo happy and full of joy with our baby boy...His sister - 23 years older than him - is going through medical school and they are super close to each other...he looooves his older sister and she is crazy about him :) That is life and God is so good to renew our bodies and bless us all with a new baby when we have already turned 40 (even though I am sure none of us feel 40, maybe 30... or less ;)...Health life and happiness to you all!!!!

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Posted 7 October 2008


Connie, 41, South Dakota, US

Hello, I am a 41 yr. old married mother of 5 children, ages 14, 9. 7, 2, and 1.  I've had three miscarriages somewhere in between my children.. my living children.  When I was pregnant with my 5th and found I was having a boy, I was elated and I thought that now my family would be complete with 3 girls and two boys at the age of 40.  Having another baby is on my mind a lot lately.  Others around the area where I live would not understand, especially my relatives.  I am busy, but very happy with being a stay at home mom.  I just need to get more backbone in dealing with what others would say.  I can remember after my 5th child was born, I ran into a relative at a store and she remarked to me, that though my children were cute, didn't I think it was time to stop having children.  I was insulted. I don't feel old, I don't feel 40.  I am in good health.

Part of me just would rather move to a place where there is others like me who want to have large families and still have babies after 40, somewhere I wouldn't be hassled by rude comments.My heart is earning to have another baby.  I feel as if there is someone missing that hasn't been born. Here I sit typing, it's nearly midnight.  I'm researching websites about having a baby after 40.  Everyone is asleep and my secret is safe for now.  So, is there anyone out there that can advise me and give me more confidence or just want to talk about it?  I'd appreciate hearing from you.

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Posted 3 October 2008


Francesca, 43, Italy

Dear friends, I'm writing from Italy. I'm 43 (44 in November); I have two children aged 12 and 9.  I have been trying to become mother again for one year and I have fallen pregnant last July, but sadly resulted in miscarriage last Saturday. I'm so sad and would like to meet other women who have the same wish to try again!

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Posted 2 October 2008


Julia, 45, Oregon, USA

am 45 years old and have 17 and 6 year old sons from a previous marriage.  I have finally married the love of my live and we have been trying to conceive naturally with no success.  My sons were not planned pregnancies, so I am not sure how easily I conceive.  This is the first time I have consciously/conscientiously tried to get pregnant.  I will be having an ovulation test done latter in the month to check if I am still actually ovulating or if I might need to take Clomid.  I would love to hear from other Mothers 45 and over  with similar issues and how they have dealt with them.

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Posted 1 October 2008


Diane, 44, New York, US

I am 44 (will be 45 in 3 weeks) and am unexpectedly 11 weeks' pregnant. I am also bipolar and have had to be taken suddenly off of 6 prescriptions, as well as put on Progesterone suppositories. I am having a CVS this Thursday and have been really nauseous, tired and uncomfortable for the past 6 weeks. I want to get excited about this pregnancy but have been going through so much physically and emotionally, I can't seem to pull myself together. I would love to connect with other mid-40s pg women to start to share BOTH concerns and POSITIVE experiences. Thank you and be well.

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Posted 29 September 2008


Sandra, 46, Hong Kong

I am 46,  British and living in Hong Kong. I am in a new relationship with a  wonderful man who has never had children of his own. He is however  wonderful with the 4 I have had thru a previous marriage. I would love to be in touch with anyone of my age who has been successful in getting pregnant naturally. Your site is very positive; many others  give me no hope at all.

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Posted 29 September 2008


Kim, US

I would like to ask if anyone (particularly over the age of 45) has had successful treatment at Birmingham Women's Hospital, BMI Priory Hospital, Diana Princess of Wales Centre for Reproductive Medicine, Cromwell IVF and Fertility Centre, London Female and Male Fertility Centre, or the London's Women's Clinic.

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Posted 23 September 2008


Angela, 44, Essex, UK

I would love to get to know anyone over 40 with secondary infertility or anyone who is ttc naturally.
I am 44-years-old and have children but have met and married a wonderful man who would love to share a biological child with me.

I have never had any problems concieving my other babies; why now I ask myself.  Well I am told that I have high fsh and it is for this reason that I will find it hard to concieve. I don't want to give up but realise that I'm approaching 50 when I would have liked to have had all my babies. Would love to hear from anyone who wishes to talk to me.

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Posted 8 September 2008


Beth, 41, Erie, PA, US

I will be 42 in December 2008. My husband will be 36 next February. We are trying to start a family. I am scared and looking for people to gather info. from, hear their experiences and learn by them.

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Posted 31 August 2008


Nancy, 42, Tennessee, USA

Hi. I am currently trying to concieve at the 'dinosaur age' of 42. Would love to talk with other women in the same situation.

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Posted 29 August 2008


Christine, 41, first baby, Switzerland

Hi,I am a 41 year woman. I am expecting my first child and I feel really lonely. I live in Switzerland where (believe it !!) it is a quite backwards. I dont have anyone to talk about my pregnancy except my partner because here women have children between the age of 25 and 35 then we are way much too old. A few weeks ago, a newspaper has made a poll about later motherhood and 80 % of people questioned said that it is too late to have a child after 42 !!!. I feel sad about this, because I dont feel old, this is my choice to have a child at my age, but it seems that everyone wants to make me pay the life I had before, that now I have to pay if I did not marry before, if I did not have children before, if I prefered to travel, work and experience life, it seems that there is the time to pay for all this. It is unfair. The worst is that many people are telling me that when my child will be 20 I will be 61 (and look like his/her grandmother instead of mother) and my child will certainly be shame of having a old mother and again I will pay for it, for having a child at 41. I dont even feel that 60 is old, I mean, it is not young but I am sure that there are women who are 60 who are doing a lot of great things and look great. Please if there is a child who has a older mother, please tell me how you feel, how you feel about the society, about your friends who have younger mothers etc...Thank you so much

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Posted 25 August 2008


Gaye, 44, Suffolk, UK (Updated Posting)

Our beautiful, healthy and perfect son was born on 19th February. Any misgivings we had have just disappeared. He is utterly delightful and we are so very happy. I can't believe how lucky I am every time I look at him. As for being older parents - I can't say we've noticed (there isn't the time! lol). Yes we are very fatigued, but what parent isn't?! Other than that, parenting has been remarkably easy and most of all very enjoyable. 

I am 44 now. I read in a lot of posts that people feel that they won't get pregnant at such a great age (!?) - be it for the first time or not. Well that is exactly how I felt, and yet somehow it has happened after only 5 months of trying. So, don't give up, put those niggling doubts to the back of your mind, but most of all try not to worry and stress about it. It can and does happen!

Previous message:

After much soul searching and discussion, my partner and I decided to try for our first baby. To my delight my GP was very sensible and sympathetic when I went for a pre-conception chat. We decided to do the battery of blood tests to check I was still ovulating and not perimenopausal. Her strongest advice to me was not to worry or stress about it!  To cut a long story short I am now 6 weeks pregnant! It's a bit of a shock to both of us as we didn't really expect it to happen to be honest!

I am 43. I read in a lot of posts that people feel that they won't get pregnant at such a great age (!?) - be it for the first time or not. Well that is exactly how I felt, and yet somehow it has happened after only 5 months of trying. So, don't give up, put those niggling doubts to the back of your mind, but most of all try not to worry and stress about it. It can and does happen!

I know it is very early days and anything can happen, but at least we have managed to conceive, which is the first step. I'd love to hear from anyone who has had their first baby at a similar age. At the moment our overwhelming feelings are ones of shock, anxiety and wondering if we really do want this after all and will we cope?!

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Updated 4 August 2008


Toni, 40, Portugal

Hi there, I am married to my second husband. I have a 12 year old son and my husband has three teenage kids from his first marriage. They live in the UK. I always wanted a sibling for my son but my first husband had an affair resulting in getting another woman pregnant. Aafter a divorce etc,I met my second husband and we moved to Portugal from the UK. We got married and found a house here. I fell pregnant in February, but a scan at 12 weeks revealed it ito be a blighted ovum. This was so hearbreaking. I had a D and C in April. Since then I have been anxious to get pregnant again.

It has been so encouraging to come across this site. I feel very alone and sad. My husband has a happy go lucky, just-see-what-happens attitude, but I am so sad when my period arrives. I feel that people think it is ridiculous that I want another baby at my age so I don't talk to anyone about how I feel. It is constantly on my mind. I have a busy job and I have my husband, son and friends, but I have this longing  for a child which has become so strong.I love my son so much and this just makes me want another baby all the more.

I would love to hear from anyone who can identify with me. Someone to share with as I am so isolated with my feelings and the monthly ups and downs of rising hope and then the disapointment when the time of the month rolls around again. Love and blessings to you all. I prayer for all the hopeful older mums out there. I am sure our maturity and perspective can only make us better mums.

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Posted 30 July 2008


Deirdre, 42, Queensland, Australia

Hi,  My name is Deidre, from Tannum Sands, Central Queensland Australia. I am a mother of 3 beautiful boys;  Nathan 6, Daniel nearly 5 and Liam 2. I pretty much fell pregnant straight away to them all, but started pretty late in life.  Always wanted to have kids young, but I never met my partner until 1998. We got married in 2000 and had our first son in 2002, the next one in 2003, then a year later I fell pregnant, but was diagnosed as having a hyatidiform molar pregnancy when the baby doesn’t develop and only the placenta forms. I was told not to fall pregnant for 12 months as I was tested each month via a urine sample.

Knowing my age was creeping up on me, I wanted to try for a girl. It took one night, which we panicked about because the 12 months was not yet up, but I figured wouldn’t happen yet. In 2006 I fell pregnant to my third gorgeous boy. I had no problem with that but still wanted my little girl to complete my family. My husband was so dead against having a fourth and said it would be too upsetting if I ended up with another boy.

We have been trying now for 10 months and it’s very draining  waiting for that day to come each month.  I feel for mums and dads trying and and those who can’t conceive naturally and have to go through much much more then I do.  How painful it is. My age scares me and I haven’t told a lot of my friends or family. I just feel I would get called an idiot and I know they wouldn’t understand, but all you mums have actually inspired me not to give up. I am turning 42 on 30th July and was going to stop at 42, but I’m continuing on and hope it happens. I’m looking into herbal medicines. Where I have moved to there is nowhere to buy them. On the internet a lot of your products  are from America, like Pure oasis serene Progesterone  cream, xy drops and yx drops and Clomid.

I also had a Placenta Previa with my second son. Everything went well with that pregnancy but I had to take it easy and was booked in for Caesarean, The only disappointment was that I never got to see him straight away, And here I was looking at a dvd of my son being held by all my relatives and I was the last to hold him. 

I would love to hear from all you over-40 groovers still trying for baby number 1 or 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 or 6, from all over the world, as it’s so cool to know  you’re yearning for the same thing as me. And by the way if I did fall pregnant and it was a boy, so be it, I will still be the happiest mum and love it to bits. Please respond all you Queenslanders and also overseas. I would love to talk about our countries to one another and maybe one day one of us will visit one or the other, But for now I’d love some Penfriend’s from everywhere. Catch ya guys and don’t ever give up.

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Posted 18 July 2008


Karan, 43, Australia

I’m Karan, a mum-of-three grown teenagers, trying to conceive and maintain a pregnancy at 43. Our first attempt ended in missed miscarriage at 9 ½ weeks in February, 2008 and our second attempt seems to be failing at 6 weeks, despite the vitamins, minerals and flaxseed oil I’m taking. I’d love to talk thru these issues with other women in my situation.

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Posted 8 July 2008


Patricia, 48, LA, California, US

Hello, I'm the mother of a 13 year old son, 11 year old girl and an 18 month old girl. I would love to conect with moms anywhere in the world especially Los Angeles ,Ca.  I did not expect to have another child - my husband and I were done. Well, God has blessed us and given us another opportunity to raise a third child. I was so nervous in the beginning of my pregnancy because it was after 9 years. Well she is here and is so perfect and delicious. God is great  It was in his plan not mine.  my pregnancy went very well besides the morning sickness, which I experienced with my other two. I had her with normal delivery and she was out in 48 minutes! So girls, go for it!! We can do it!!

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Posted 22 June 2008


Connie, 52, Texas, US

I would just like to connect with other moms via-e-mail and to have any what so ever 'positive' remarks, comments on havinga baby at 50.

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Posted 20 June 2008


Michelle, 39, South Africa

Hi Ladies, This is such an awesome website.  I have been reading through almost everyone’s emails and they have really inspired me to carry on with my plans to have another baby.  I will be 40 in July 2008.  I have a wonderful 12 year old son, a beautiful, almost 3 year old daughter (in August) and 2 step-sons age 17 and 11.

My husband will be 45 this year and feels that he is too old to father anymore kids.  We only have our little daughter between the two of us and she is really a blessing from God.  She is the rose amongst the thorns.  I have now convinced him to try again. 

I was hoping to go off the pill in September and then plan from there.  I think I have been reading too much up on age and all the things that can go wrong.  I am leaving my decision up to God and I know he will carry me through this exciting period of my life.

Isn’t this what life is all about?? Raising God’s children

Hope that I hear from you guys in South Africa and Abroad.

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Posted 18 June 2008


Laura, 45, Germany

Hello, I appreciate a website for over 40 year olds.  I have a daughter 2.5 years old via IVF.  Recently visited my IVF specialist who informed us that my chances again are about 1% to conceive & hold on to the pregnancy.  Basically, he informed us that there are no successful pregnancies via IVF reported in Germany.  Are there any success stories out there of 45 year old plus having a successful pregnancy via IVF?  If so, please let me know.  Thanks very much!

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Posted 8 June 2008


Brionne, 42, Ireland  (Updated 3 June 2008)  (See photos of Brionne & her babies)

Brionne has just given birth to her third child, a healthy baby boy, Zachary, at home, weighing 3.6 kg, length 49 cm.

Orignal updated message:

Just reached the third trimester with another baby - he's due towards the end of June. I turned 42 at the end of last year. Everything's been going really well so far with the pregnancy and we're going for another home birth with the same midwife as last time. Meanwhile, Mayanne turned one year old less than a month ago - she's full of smiles and personality and has become a high speed crawler....she has taken a few first steps when we offer our arms for her to hold, and loves eating and going out.

Caelan (he's 5) and Mayanne have invented several games they like to play - Roll the Biscuit Tin (to each other), You Build the Towers and I'll Knock Them Down, I'll Drop This and You'll Bring It Back, and the Get Game - Mayanne says "Get" - gives a toy to Caelan, stretches out her hand and says "Get" again to have it given back over and over. She still hasn't much hair, and only one tooth!
The new baby is a boy we're going to call Zachary, and he looks like being another livewire....he was flipping somersaults during his only ultrasound so far.

Original message:

I'm Brionne, 41, I have a 4 year old son and a new baby girl.

Baby Mayanne was born at home on 27 Feb 07, two weeks early.  She weighs in at just over eight pounds (just 200g more than my son weighed four years ago) and is absolutely lovely and perfect, sleeping and drinking her milk, and even smiling from day one! I was very lucky to get the home birth I wanted.  My midwife went to a wedding in America and we were only just able to raise the half arranged back-up midwife in time - she made it for the last hour or so.  She was very calm and reassuring, and truly excellent.  This time it didn't all just happen by itself with me as a sort of bystander as it had the first time.  I think it must be something to do with the waters breaking at 1 am instead of 5 pm!  Anyway I had to put in a bit of work this time, and it took 9 hours from the waters breaking instead of 6, Mayanne made things that bit more difficult by sticking her hand on her head and making the job that bit bigger!  The placenta took over an hour to appear again, which gave Daddy plenty of holdy time with baby, which he rather enjoyed.

But there you go, you can get pregnant at 40 in the old-fashioned way and give birth at home without drugs or intervention.

Happily the new baby is more adept at breastfeeding than Caelan was. He tried to hand her all his toys and books on the first day and is only just beginning to calm down.

Hope this inspires others who are just thinking about trying for a baby at this age to have some confidence.  If you're lucky, and I'm sure lots of us must be, you won't need to put yourself through the stress of fertility treatments etc - it can just happen, especially if you and your man have been looking after yourselves, or if he's a fair bit younger.

The very best of luck to everyone on this site, however you're hoping it'll happen.

I'd love to chat/meet other Mums, esp stay-at-home Mums.

Anyone who has another 4-year-old to come play with my little boy would be lovely - would have to be non-smoker for meet-ups.

We have a healthy lifestyle - maybe affected fertility as had first child within one month and second within 4 months - don't know if changing lifestyle late in the day works as this has been lifelong.  Info for anyone who's interested.

I love nature, feeding wild birds in winter, growing food, foraging and being with my lovely little boy.

Have been attachment parenting without knowing that's what it's called (!) - breastfeeding and keeping baby in bed/sling etc.

Penpals from anywhere.  Meetups easiest for Mums in Galway area, Ireland.

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Updated 3 June 2008


Susan, 45, UK

I'm 45 and married to a wonderful man who has not had any children. We have not been trying to conceive for very long, only about 4 months, but I could really do with some support from other ladies in the same position. Neither of us have had any tests but I have been charting/temping now for about 8 months and know I have been ovulating regularly. I have got the all clear from my doc, health wise, and she confirmed I am ovulating based on my charts. I already have older children from a previous marriage but would so like to be able to make our family complete.

I would love to hear from someone who would like to exchange hopes, tears, support and excitement during our journeys.

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Posted 3 June 2008




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