Gill, 46, UK

Hi. My name is Gill, I live in the UK, am 46 and am working on conceiving a first baby and am really looking for a little sound advice.

I had a tubal ligation at age 30, something I now (obviously!) regret. Most of the advice I'm getting, both from a clinic and message board is that IVF is by far my best option; cheapest, and most likely to be successful considering my age and the length of time since my tubes were sealed.
But recently, I've been chatting to a friend of a friend who has conceived her first child naturally, at age 45, after having her sterilisation reversed, and now I'm all in a quandary!

I guess, the very best chance would be to have the op but go for IVF as well - but that's going to be an expensive option. I'm just wondering if anyone here could offer me some advice?
Happy to chat away to anyone and everyone also. I'm a writer, working from home. My main interests are Permaculture, archeaology, reading and cult TV.

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Posted 18 July 2006


Lynette, 48, Townsville, Queensland, Australia 

I have a two year old son, Thierry, who was born just before my 46th birthday, my first child.We had a great natural birth and have loved every moment of the past two years. I am now a stay -at -home mum, live in Townsville (sunny Nth Queensland) Australia, live a very healthy lifestyle, have started a Playgroup - Healthy Planet Playcircle. Would love to hear from other like minded mums.

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Posted 16 July 2006


Deborah 43, Hornchurch, Essex, UK

I gave birth to my first child last autumn at the age of 42 and would really like to get in touch with other mums of a similar age. There were no antenatal classes in my area and none of my friends have young children. I would like to chat about motherhood but also my many other interests such as studying, rock music, travel, horror books and films, IT and things that people in their 40s remember!

I had no breastmilk at all and was shocked that I could get no support from anyone even when I offered to pay. The La Leche League were not helpful as they don't really offer any advice to women who have no milk. It is an issue about which I feel very, very strongly.

Thank you very much for any help you can offer me.

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Posted 16 July 2006


Adriana, 41, Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

I am Adriana, I am 41, but I would like to know if there is any information around about women who have gave birth after 45, first child.

Yes, I am not trying to conceive yet, but I have a feeling I might do it in a few years.

I am pretty healthy, yet with everything in my lifehappens later.

I still look like a girl of 30. I am very flexible, and I've been thinking that if I still have this body, maybe I can conceive for the first time around or a bit after 45. But I would like to know if anyone knows where to find some info about this.

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Posted 13 July 2006


Julie, 41, Aylesbury, Buckinghamshire, UK

Hi, I am currently on maternity leave with a baby girl called Caitlin who is nearly five months old.  I had a really tough time last year as the pregnancy was unplanned and having two older boys of 13 and 10 thought my family was complete.  I live in Aylesbury with my partner Kim and would love to hear from any mums in the area who like me may have older children with a new baby and be a bit out of practice with the baby bit.  I like going to the cinema and eating out when I get the chance!

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Posted 12 July 2006


Tracey, 44, Calgary, B, Canada

I am now 44 yrs. old.  My baby girl will be 1 year old in 2 weeks  (July 28).  I conceived naturally at age 42, about 3 mos. from my  43rd birthday).  Our baby was unplanned but very much wanted.  I have  read some of the posts here and wanted to post my own so that it  might give hope to women who are trying to conceive and are over 40.

I was treated very nicely by my own GP (who admitted to being envious  of me!), and my OB/GYN and his nurse.  They told me my age was  completely irrelevant.  I did have an amnio at just over 16 weeks and  even that doctor was very positive about my age.  I had a medically  uneventful pregnancy (just bad 24/7 morning sickness until 14  weeks).  I did experience very bad hip pain in the last few months  which only bothered me when in bed.  Other than that I was fine.

I had to have a c-section, not due to age at all, but because I  have back problems (which was FINE during my pregnancy!).  I didn't  like the section at all and I still grieve for my loss of a vaginal  birth.  I have 2 other kids - a son,15 and a daughter,12 who love our  baby girl to bits.  My baby is the happiest possible baby - laughing  and happy  about 99% of the time - she is such a joy!  I can't  imagine our lives without her.

I wish you all luck in your journey toward motherhood.  Please ignore  the majority of the information out there about becoming a mother  later in life.  There are so many of us that have had healthy babies.

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Posted 12 July 2006


Amy, 40, Greensburg, PA, US

I am 40 years old, and yes, now I am trying for my first baby!!!  My husband just had a vasectomy reversal, May 30th. I am so afraid I will not become pregnant quickly, if at all.  I do feel the pressure.  When I read the other stories that are posted I am very moved by them and it really helps me to keep a positive attitude. If anyone has any advice for me, please feel free to contact me.  :)

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Posted 3 July 2006


Joyce, Washington State, US

I am 42 yrs old and will be 43 when I deliver my 4th baby. I am going through a divorce, so I'll raise this one by myself, with my other 3 kids, (well  2, one doesn't live at home.) I'm very healthy, but a few pounds over weight and scared. You hear of all the things that could go wrong with the baby.  
I am planning on having the ammio testing done, but am very scared. If  anyone has has this procedure, then I would like to know what to expect.  I have very bad anxiety about tests like that, (how I ever made it through 3 births, natural with no drugs, God only knows!), but right now I am really under the  stress with the pregnancy, testing, and divorce, and raising 2 at home still by 
myself.  Any words of wisdom, encouragement, anything? Thanks!

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Posted 30 June 2006


Jackie, 44, Ohio, US (Updated)

I would just like to update my message from September.  Well, after a very difficult few months of pregnancy, mainly due to the baby being breech and nothing to do with my age, they tried in vain to turn the baby so that I could have a vaginal birth but the baby just wouldn't move, so I was scheduled for my first ever c-section on February 26th, 2006. On February 11th I went into labor and within an hour after arriving at the hospital had a beautiful baby girl weighing in at 6lbs 12oz.  She is the best baby I have ever had, sleeping 12 hours through the night since she was 6 weeks old (and that's the truth :) The one regret I do have is that the pregnancy was not a good one and when I found out I was having a c-section I told them to tie my tubes and now a part of me really wishes I hadn't done that as I would have really loved another one. Has anyone ever heard of someone getting pregnant once they have had their tubes tied....... a long shot I
know!! 

My advice out there is it best if you keep your thoughts of trying for a baby to yourself. That way you get no negative feed back. Just tell them once you are, then it's too late.  Good luck everyone!!!!!!!

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Posted 24 June 2006


Amanda, 44, Taunton, Somerset, UK

I am 44 years old with 3 grown up children aged between 21 and 23 years. I also have a 2 year old granddaughter. My second husband (46) and I have been trying for a baby for 2 years since I had my sterilisation reversed. Recently i have been questioning myself whether I was getting too old to have a baby and by not conceiving was nature's way of telling me so. But how lucky I was to find this site; it has changed my thoughts and realise again I'm not too old and there's lots of mums-to-be my age. I'm happy to hear from anyone who wishes to write.

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Posted 24 June 2006


Kathleen, 47, US

The reason I'm writing is to ask if anyone can refer me to any research or information on Egg
Donation and Health in older woman. I married late (41) and am considering the option of egg donation. I am 47 currently (in good health) and would like to find out as much as I can before I make a decision.

There's plenty of statistics on success rates of egg transfer through clinics, but it's hard to get
information on post-partum health or complications etc. The clinics don't really track post-partum
health. If anyone can provide me with any information/suggestions I would be grateful. That
could be: physicians specializing in older births, research articles, or other woman who have gone
through the procedure in my age category.  Thank you.

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Posted 23 June 2006


Debbie, 40, Buckinghamshire, UK

My name is Debbie I live in Buckinghamshire England. I am nearly 41 and have just found out that I am expecting a baby. It's not my first baby, but a shock to my system, as all my children have now grown up.

I must admit... I am so scared. I have done nothing but cry for two days. There seems to be so much that can go wrong because of being the age of 40 odd and being pregnant. I thought by joining the site, I could contact other mums to be and maybe this might put my mind at rest a bit.

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Posted 23 June 2006


Debra, 44, Cumbria, UK (Updated)

Just wanted to report (a little late albeit) that I gave birth after a natural conception on 20.09.05 to a 8lb 13 oz baby boy named Ben.  I had already started injections for down regulating my ovaries to have donor egg treatment!  On my second baseline scan, 2 weeks before treatment was scheduled I was told that I had a fetal pole and a sac but no heartbeat.  I went back to my local hospital for a scan 1 week later to be told that their was a heartbeat.  So after being told that my own fertility had ended by 2 ivf specialists I had conceived with a fsh of 27.8.  So I wanted to give some hope to those women with elevated fsh.  We all have a few good eggs left!  I’m now ttc again at 44 (my birthday today) I’m using the clear blue fertility monitor and had a lh surge and ovulation pain 4 days ago, so I’ll keep you posted.

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Posted 22 June 2006


Linette, 45, Arizona, US 

I stumbled on your website and am very interested to talk to other  moms  over 45. We are lucky to already have an amazing 5-year-old boy. He and I  are  a week apart - I turned 40 and then he arrived - pure love. We are about to enter into Egg Donor world, but I am still hoping a  miracle happens and we conceive on our own. After reading the many 45  and up mothers stories it gave me hope. My Doctors here say "no very  unlikely eggs are toooo old". I would love to know more about acupuncture or other things you feel  helped.

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Posted 19 June 2006


Donna. 44, Washington DC, US

I am 44 and 7 weeks pregnant.  This will be my first biological  child, although I have a 14-year-old stepdaughter.  My husband and I  feel very blessed.  We went through a round of fertility drugs in  April, but because of a pre-planned vacation, we didn't take a thing  in May.  Well, I guess the relaxation was what we needed, because I  confirmed my pregnancy almost 3 weeks ago when I missed my period.   Because of my age, I have had some great care, and even saw a tiny  heart flutter 3 days ago on an ultrasound.  My doctor told me that  once you see a heart beat, your chance of miscarriage drops to 5%.  I  am so happy!

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Posted 15 June 2006


Chriss, 47, California, US

I recently turned 47 (a few weeks ago) and have been trying to conceive naturally.  I had no problem getting pregnant at 42 on my honeymoon!  I have a very healthy little girl and would really like to have another child.  I’m ungoing acupuncture and herbs, eating healthy and avoiding caffeine.  I would love to talk to another mother about her success. 

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Posted 12 June 2006


Robin, 46, Orange Country, California, US

I am 46 years old and had my 2nd child at the age of 45 after many years of trying and a couple of devastating (are there any other kind?) miscarriages. I have 2 boys ages 12 years and age 22 months and they are the loves of my life. I stay at home now and I find it difficult to relate to most women who have babies my baby's age because most of those mums are young enough to be my daughters! I have looked in to some mom's groups and exercise classes, but again, most of the mums are in their 20s and 30s.

I am interested in meeting up with other mum's in the Orange County area of Southern California.

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Posted 15 June 2006


Nnenna, 42, Nigeria

I am Nnenna, a Nigerian lady and I am 42 trying to concieve my first pregnancy. It was recently discovered that I have a fibroid dislodging the central cavity of my womb and this causes me heavy bleeding every month, but I have been booked to have a myomectomy this month in order to remove the fibroid.  What are my chances of concieving after this surgery? I would love to meet ladies who are in the same situation as I am and who can also suggest ways that I can increase my chances of conceiving after this surgery. I am a working class lady and my hobbies are reading, traveling, making new friends and listening to music.

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Posted 12 June 2006




Erica, 44, Belgium

About a year ago I send a mail to 'mothers over 40', saying my husband and I would try to become pregnant. I'm 44 now. As it turned out, we didn't try it seriously till last month. And guess what? I'm in my 5th week of pregnancy now!

I just want to encourage those women who think it will be hard to concieve over 40.
This is my fourth pregnancy (second marriage) and although I was much younger when pregnant the first three times, it took longer to conceive than now. Bingo at the first hit!

I would like to write with other moms of my age (becoming 45 this year) who are pregnant and have concieved naturally. I live in Europe, Belgium.

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Posted 12 June 2006


Elizabeth, 45, Arizona, US

I am 45 years old and am still quite shocked over having miscarried 2 months ago with a chemical pregnancy.  My husband had a vasectomy reversal several years ago (around 2001 or 2002) and after trying for many months, we lost hope figuring that the reversal didn't take. I am a person of faith so figured it was just not meant to be. What bothers me, is that I have dreamed about a second daughter more than once. I "knew" my other 2 children before they were born through dreams; seeing their sex, features and some very specific personality traits. I know this is odd - most people would think I am nuts. I have read many times that every miscarriage no matter how young, is a child we will meet in heaven also and maybe I will just have to meet her there. I don't want to go through any excessive measures. I also am afraid of the miscarriages I hear about that are so common as we age and birth defects. My symptoms with the recent conception were intense!! Nothing like when I was in my 20's and 30's. I honestly don't know if I could deal with the added challenges of a child with Down Syndrome or other challenges. I have been charting and I do ovulate and the 2 charts following my m/c were vastly different. The first was wild and this last one incredibly consistant with stable temps and typical ov shift so I guess my body works, but the term "bad eggs" is really scaring me. What is this obsession though with getting pregnant!!! oy!! Smile. I would love to hear from anyone who is moved to write to me.

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Posted 11 June 2006


Gloria, 47, Nova Scotia, Canada

My name is gloria and Im 47.I have recently been remarried and we would like to have a baby. We have tried for about a year. I had a miscarriage in October 2005 and the Dr said I couldn’t try again as some count was low (well it was  low then  too). I have missed my period since April! I have had 3 pregnancy tests at hospital, which are negative. I used an over the counter test a while ago and it was positive. He will not order the blood test as he feels it’s a waste of time, since the Walmart one was very faint, so Im not sure yet!! Is this normal??

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Posted 2 June 2006


Tina, 43, Irvine, California, US

I'll be turning 43 this coming September 11. I'm seeing a Doctor this coming Thursday.  I look and feel very pregnant. I couldn't wait to share my joy and fear at the same time with you all. I've a 15-year-old daughter, and my second daughter is 3 1/2. She will be 4 on September 13.  I read some of the Mums’ articles.  They sounded so positive and gave me the encouragement that I needed to hear.  I would love to chat with anyone or share your stories about child bearing and child birth after 40.  I wouldn't say that my third pregnancy planned, but does it matter anyway?  As long as I'm happy right?  I'm afraid of lots of work around the house and no one to help out.  I'm very happy and my gut is telling me three is a charm.

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Posted 31 May 2006


Lynda, 43, Sydney, Australia

I am 43, and the very proud first time mother of a gorgeous 14 month old boy called Connor.  Due to my age, my partner and I decided to try to have a second child together relatively quickly.  Unfortunately I had a miscarriage, at 12 weeks, in early April.  It started the day after Connor's first birthday party where we announced our exciting news to our party guests.   We are going to try again - I just have to be careful  to focus on the joy Connor has brought us, rather than to fixate on having a second child.

I would love to chat with someone who started motherhood in their 40s.  I live in Sydney, Australia and enjoy music, walking, reading (when I have the chance) and spoiling my pets.

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Posted 30 May 2006


Rachael, 45, US

Hi, I am 45 years old, and the mother of two adopted baby daughters.  I just wanted to let all of you out there know that adoption is a very, very wonderful option.  Before adopting I went through several pregnancies all of which miscarried.  It took a lot of work to reach the point where I could put the desire to conceive behind me - and I still haven't completely given up, as I am still having regular periods.  I would love to have the experience of being pregnant - but I know that I couldn't possibly, in a million years, love my two daughters (aged 1 and 2) more if they were biologically connected to me. Adoption is a wonderful thing, and I am in the midst of doing the paperwork for a third child.  By the way, I am a single woman, English, but living in America.  It used to be very difficult for people to adopt in the UK - I'm not sure how it is there now.  In America lots and lots of people create families through adoption.  So if you are trying to conceive, do remember that if it doesn't work out, there are other, truly wonderful, ways to be parent a child.

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Posted 17 May 2006


Angela, 41, UK

I am 41 years old I have never married. I did have a long-term relationship for eight years but my partner then did not support my need to have a child. I finished that relationship five years ago but I have still not found a suitable partner yet. I have been and still am devastated by my predicament, as I still want to have a child. I now do not know what to do or think. I have recently been off sick for four months with depression. I do not know now if I should give up. I have had it suggested to me that I should adopt but this is not what I want. I have looked into Donor insemination but I am not happy about the idea that a child would not know who its genetic father was. I would prefer it to be somebody who would be prepared to acknowledge their genetic role as a father. Has anybody else been in this predicament and if so what did they do to find a donor?

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Posted 17 May 2006


Debbie, 46, Oxfordshire, UK

My name is Debbie. I live with my partner and our son who will be 7 at the end of June.
He was conceived naturally at the age of 39, I gave birth when I was 40. I am desperate for another baby. We started IVF when I was 43. First 6 months of clomid, when they told me I was over ovulating but still no success. I then had 3 attempts at IVF, each time 6 eggs were produced and all 6 fertilised. I had 3 eggs put back each time, but no success. The hospital will no longer treat me as I will be 46 on Sunday. I have taken Clomid the last 3 months, this month being my last. Is there anyone out there who could give me encouragement. My son means the world to me and I would so much like to have another one. We did go on the egg donor list & I have been offered 2 times but turned it down as I cant get the feelings right in my head about it, as it would not have my genes. I desperately would like one of my own naturally & would welcome any advice. I admit alcohol has been a problem over the last few months as I am not coping very well.

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Posted 12 May 2006


Mithuna, 44, Sri Lanka

I am 44 years old and am 4 and a half weeks pregnant through IVF with donor eggs. My husband and I have been married for 12 years and had been trying for kids since 1998. In 2000 our fertility doctor in India adviced us to go with donor egggs. I was pregnant 3 times earlier and miscarried. Once it was a blighted ovum diagnosed at 9 weeks. The earlier time I was not taking progesterone and m/c at 5 weeeks and the last time I had bleeding on the day I was supposed to do the preg test and there was a faint line. It was negative after another week. This time round I'm trying my best with God's help to be as positive as possible but at times I am haunted by fears and I find this site very helpful. I would love to hear from other moms in similar situations.I am also hypertensive and on atenolol at the moment and there are conflicting reports of that so I think I will have to meet my physician and change the drugs. My question to moms is my breasts really hurt but I have no morning sickness at all. When does morning sickness start and is four weeks still too early? Someone please write. Best of luck to all of you.

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Posted 11 May 2006


Lisa, 40

Hello, I am pregnant at 40 and we are thrilled.  We tried for 6 yrs only to find out my husband had a varicele.  Within 90 days after repair, we were pregnant! I have a 14-year-old child and want to have another child next year. Being a late bloomer in the affect that I finally have a man I cherish and a career I love.  My first child is a great guy, but something was always missing with his jerky sperm donater that I divorced 10 years prior.  Although being pregnant at 40 is of course more risk and there are a lot of more preventative tests they are all worth it.  The amnio was no problem, being diabetic is a reality and being tired in a little more at 8 months’ pregnant.  Being a nurse, everything I can do is done for this fella of mine.  I hope fond wishes for all the 40+ moms and dads out there, it really is a blessing to be pregnant at 40.

Take care and happy birthing...Lisa

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Posted 11 May 2006


Judi, 43, UK

Hi, I would like to chat to any mums over 40. We tried to conceive for over two years and I still can't belive I'm pregnant. I've been offered all the tests and opted for the nuchal scan as it was the safest. It has a 90% acurracy rate. I do feel very nervous and worried and every pain and niggle makes me scared. I have a 14 yr old daughter and have been married for 17 years. My interests are reading, gardening, camping, theatre, dogs and cookery. Hope to chat with someone soon and good luck to you all.xxx

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Posted 9 May 2006


Gill, 43, Bromley, Kent, UK  (Updated)

Gill gave birth to a perfect baby girl on October 31st at the age of 43.  She is absolutely over the moon and  would like to send her love and hope to everyone trying to conceive.

Original message:  I would love to be in contact with other mothers in the same position. I am 42 and trying to conceive with my partner of 2 years. I have a daughter who will be 21 in March, I lost my son 3 years ago. He would have been 25 this year and was mentally  and physically handicapped due to hospital negligence. He was an identical twin; his twin was stillborn (also hospital negligence). My partner has no children and we both would love a child of our own. Does anyone know of any good informative books about older motherhood that they can recommend? My mum is now 83 and had me at athe age of 41 after being told that she couldnt have any children!

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Tracey, 40, Ohio, US

Hi! My name is Tracy and I'm 40 years old and ttc #1. My DH is 42. We've been married for 14 years and currently reside in Southeastern, Ohio.  I am mommy to 3 furbabies (two pups & one kitty). I love to travel, garden, listen to good music, drink red wine, and be anywhere near an ocean. I'd like to get to know other women with the same interests who are also ttc in their 40's.

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Posted 13 April 2006


Clare, 46, Utah, US

Much to my astonishment I found out last Friday that I am 7 1/2 weeks pregnant.  I'm 46, and I'll be 47 in October.  The baby is due November 21. I'm thrilled, as this is my first pregnancy, and I didn't think I'd ever be able to get pregnant.  But I'm also scared, because I've had no morning sickness, and I've read that could be a bad sign that the baby is not firmly attached in the uterus and I may miscarry.  I wondered whether you folks might know whether morning sickness might be less common in older first-time mothers like me?  I have a lot of fears about this pregnancy.  It is a miracle, though.  There's no doubt about that.  Just being able to get pregnant at 46, that is!  Please feel free to post this.  It may encourage others who are trying to get pregnant.

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Posted 6 April 2006


Rose Marie, 47, Bloomfield, New Jersey, US

I recently married a younger man.  I am currently 47 years old and have 3 children - ages 30, 28 and 21.  I am in good health, don't drink or smoke and am no overweight.  I would very much like to have a baby at my age.  I still menstruate every 28-30 days.  I would like some encouragement as to what you think my chances would be and any advice or insight.  I'm getting so much negativity from family and friends.

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Posted 3 April 2006


Janine, 44, California, US

I am 44 and trying to conceive my second child.  My first child will be 9 this year.   I have had 4 miscarriages within the last 2 and 1/2 years.  One was a “chemical” pregnancy that never took, and the 3 other m/c were all in the first trimester.  After many doctors and many tests, I was told that I was fine, that I am able to still have kids, but that my risk of another m/c was high due to my age.  My husband was also tested for sperm and a bunch of blood tests and he is very good on all measures.  I have very regular periods but I can’t seem to hold on the pregnancy past the first trimester, and they always give me the same answer why, “it must have been chromosomal problems.”

I am upset because I find that I am getting negative feedback from other moms at my son’s school, my mil, and friends who tell me I am too old to have another baby.  None of which are in the medical profession.  If one more person tells me I have “old eggs,”  I will really say something I may regret.  When it comes to pregnancy, suddenly everyone I speak to is a self proclaimed expert.  I have learned to not say anything to anyone when I fall pregnant, but that is hard because then you isolate yourself.

I would have had more kids right after my first child however, my childbearing was interrupted by back surgery and eye surgery.  I had to mend and now I am 100%.  However, now I find myself in my early 40’s feeling like I just lost years in the blink of an eye.

I am ttc, and trying to relax and not worry so much about birth defects.  For each pregnancy that ended in m/c I was overcome with fear from  reading horrible statistics about mothers over 40.  If I am fortunate to get pregnant and carry another baby to full term, I want to enjoy the pregnancy and not spend every moment worrying only about the negative things I read.  During my last pregnancy that ended in m/c Feb 06, I had a heartbeat and was trying to decide about CVS testing vs. Amneo.  It seems that CVS was preferred by my doctor because it is an early test, but that after CVS he didn’t want me to do an Amneo which is more comprehensive.  This time around if I can get pregnant I think I will just wait to do the Ameno so it covers as much testing as I can have done.  But since it is done much later, if you have to terminate I hear that is very traumatic.  Anyone have the dilemma of CVS vs. Amneo?

Mostly, I have wondered if I am crazy to want another baby at my age.  Finding Jan’s web site was wonderful. Suddenly I found myself reading about many other women who have the same desire to have another child after the age of 40.  So many people have told me to be thankful I have one healthy child and just leave it at that.  But I feel this need for another child, like there is a part of me that is empty.   I love my child so much, but I know in my heart that I want one more.

As for my personal info, I love to read, write, and travel.  I live in Southern California but lived in England and Australia when I was little.   If anyone would like to correspond with me from anywhere in the world that would be wonderful.  

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Posted 3 April 2006


Andrea, 46, Florida, US

I'm a mother to a daughter age 29 and 4 sons ages, 24, 19, 13 and 4.  I'm also a grandmother to 3 boys ages, 9, 6 and 4 yrs.  I'm in a relationship with a much younger man who has no children.  He wants children very much and I would love to have another child.  I love being a mom!  My cycles are regular and my FSH levels came back at 5.3 which is supposed to be very good.  I was started on 50 mg of clomid in February and now I'm on my second round which was increased to 100 mg.  Because clomid increases mucus and we need thin mucus to conceive easier I read that taking 1 baby aspirin daily helps thin the mucus or by taking Robitussin.  I would love to hear from anyone who could offer more suggestions or who would just like to share something in common. 

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Posted 2 April 2006


Susie, 45, Bournemouth, UK

Hi from Bournemouth. I was 45 this week but can still say that I conceived when I was 44!!  I’m 7 weeks pregnant & have a 17 month old toddler so will have my hands well & truly full!!  But I have to say that first time around with Isabelle felt like the most amazing miracle and I loved being pregnant although it wasn’t without its worrying moments.  Now, at 7 weeks I’m not sure I truly believe it yet and feel as if I’m trying not to be too excited because the 12 weeks isn’t up & I had a CVS last time at around 10 weeks which was a difficult time.  But I have been praying for this for a while & so my dream has been answered!  My toddler, Isabelle is SO physically active, its unbelievable – life has never been so challenging.  I have done many challenging things in my life but nothing that has challenged me as much as this!!  But what rewards & what indescribable feelings they engender in us.  I love being a Mother & hope my energy levels continue for a while longer!  We recently moved from London to Bournemouth & its been more difficult than I thought it would be, certainly in terms of making new friends.  But then its only been 3 months but I do miss my friends in London especially now I’m pregnant again.  I go to loads of toddler groups & classes which is great but life is busy & often other Mums have more children to look after & its just a time problem – some of them have been going to the same groups for a year or so & know each other really well & its quite hard to break in.  So I’ve just offered to host an NCT coffee group in Southbourne (Bournemouth) which should be good & also I hope I’ll meet new Mums at antenatal classes.  I would love to meet other Mums in Bournemouth/Poole, Dorset even & so please get in contact if you’d like to do the same.

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Posted 25 March 2006


Marie, 44, UK

I'm Marie, I live in the UK.  I'm 44 for another two months yet.  I had my first baby in 2002, after 10 years trying and IVF.  He died of Cot death, and I thought I would die too.

In 2004, we were blessed with our wonderful son.  I love being a mum at 44, it is just fine!
I would love another baby with all my heart.  For us it is easy, we go to a fab clinic in the Ukraine, which is really cheap, and sucess rates are fantastic. 

Our only problem is fear- I can think of 200,000 reasons why it is not a good idea to be pregnant at 45, but I would love a baby.  I want to do it so much, but I'm so afraid.  Thankfully, because this clinic is so good, we don't have to worry about treatment working, but I wish I could just do it and feel alright about it.
If I woke up tomorrow and found out I was pregnant, I'd be over the moon,but to plan it is to think of all the reasons not to do it.

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Posted 15 March 2006


Celeste, 43, US, Atlanta, Georgia, US

I'm 43 years old and trying the fertility drug Clomid. This will be my third Clomid Cycle. I've had 2 miscarriages. With one Polycystic Ovary, Fibroids and High Blood Pressure Doctors give me almost no hope of conceiving without trying IVF or an Egg Donor. Since IVF is so expensive my Husband and I are desperately trying to get pregnant without using all of our Savings even though we know it would be worth it. We're just scared of not having any funds to fall back on. I would like to talk to other Moms or Mom-to-be who have had circumstances similar to mine. It's very difficult since I don't have anyone to talk to who is my age going through the same situation. My family thinks me and my Husband should just get-over-it because I'm "too old" to think about becoming Pregnant. I don't feel I'm too old. I just need to find a way to become pregnant and successfully give birth. I know I'll be a good Mother and hopes God will bless me and my Husband with just one Angel.

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Posted 14 March 2006


Vjollca, 44, Kosovo

Hi, I am 44 and not married but have a boyfriend. I like children very much, so I would like to have one of my own. After reading this site I have more hope than earlier! Any help or advice for me? I am having hormone injections because of my irregular menstrual cycle.

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Posted 9 March 2006


Anne, 49, Pittsburgh, PA, USA

Hi, I just found your site. I am not sure how this works. I am 49 and want to conceive a child with my partner who is a healthy 45 year old man. I am having intermittent periods. I would like to get advice on all the ways I can boost my chances for success. I know Mike's sperm count is high so things are taken care of on that end. I had a child at 26 by natural birth and all went well. I am very fit and do a lot of outdoor sports, hiking, kayaking, mountain climbing, biking and eat a good diet, and have no health problems. I would love to get some advice and support from your members.

I saw that Sandy, code 201, was able to get pregnant at 49 and I would love to get some suggestions if she still uses your site. And Dolores, code 193, may also have received some helpful advice that maybe she would be willing to share. Hey,  I am grateful for anyone who can give me some assistance. I really, really want to find a way to make this happen and can use all the prayers, well wishes, medical tips, and support anyone can give!

Take care and thanks for providing a site that is a forum for the 40+ crowd that love kids!

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Posted 9 March 2006


Laurie, 48, South Dakota, US

I am 48 and have 5 children ages 29, 25, 23, 9, and 7.  I have met someone very special to me who is 40 and has no children.  We are trying to naturally conceive a baby of our own.  I still have regular periods and consider myself to be very healthy and in great shape for my age.  I am looking to chat with anyone who has any suggestions, encouragement, or that is going through something similar.  It seems that most people look at me like I am crazy when I tell them what we are doing because of my age.

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Posted 8 March 2006



Cat, 43, Dorset, UK

Hi my name is Cat and I live in Dorset in UK,i am 43 and trying to conceive with my partner David, I have 2 children from my previous relationship age 20 and 17. Would really love to chat with someone in a similar situation. My partner is 15yrs younger than me and has no children and to have a baby together would make our lives complete.

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Posted 7 March 2006


Carole, 45, Hale, Nr Altrincham, Cheshire, UK

I am 45 and having fertility treatment. I would really love to get  chatting to other people who are in similar situations to myself.

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Posted 6 March 2006


Bonita, 44, South Africa

I am trying to fall pregnant now at the age of 44 with my first child and found your website interesting and helpful. I would like to hear from other women in a similar situation.

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Posted 6 March 2006


Cristina, 37, US

I'm 37 and finding myself with a great career and no kids, and thinking it's not too late...you might say plenty of time I know. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and just wanted to hear from real girls I still have time to meet someone and build a family and hoping for a happy future. I really love kids and it will be a shame not to fulfill this dream!

Thanks to all and keep up the web site!

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Posted 25 February 2006


Margie, 45, Central Va, nr Lynchurg VA, US

My name is Margie and I am 45. I am getting ready to start clomid and would like to communicate with someone around my age that has taken clomid. I have had two miscarriages and fibroid surgery 2 years ago. I have not been able to conceive on my own and am now going to try clomid.  I am having a HSG and my doc suggests a clomid challenge test where they check my estridol and fsh.  I would very much appreciate if you could put me in touch with someone who is going through a similar situation. Thank you.

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Posted 24 February 2006


Irene, 41, California, US

My name is Irene Berban and I live in California. I’m 41 and my husband is 38. We have a happy healthy little girl who is 2 yrs. old (Brook) and the love of our lives. I never thought that I would be so lucky. In 2004 we found out that I was pregnant again and we were so happy. However, in Feb. "05 my oldest brother was killed tragically and in April '05 I lost my baby at 18 weeks of pregnancy. The docs said that my sadness had nothing to do with my losing the baby--I really don’t know what happened. There was an autopsy done but it was inconclusive. In Dec. '05 I found out I was pregnant again--but unfortunately at 7 weeks of pregnancy I had a miscarriage.

Well, here I am again. I just found out I am pregnant (found out Feb. 20th).The thought of being 41 does scare me but I am hopeful after reading all the wonderful success stories and it gives me hope and I have deep faith so I hope this is my time to have my second child.

I just was hoping that I could get some input from other mums--I’m scared but my happiness and love for my child already makes me feel strong and hopeful. Thank you to all you wonderful mommies (40+) and the encouragement that I needed I found here.

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Posted 24 February 2006






Lisa, 43, Minnesota, US

Hi,  I'm 43 and have 2 children, 16 and almost 4. I noticed you have progesterone cream info on the site so thought I would add my story. 2 years ago I started having irregular periods, menopause symptoms, and just feeling older and run down. I went to my doctor , was told I was in menopause and traditional HRT was recommended. After my own research on it I decided not to. I read John Lees book and it just made sense to me. Mid summer I started using natural progesterone cream. I read of women who had a calming reaction to the cream and just feeling great. I didn't experience that. In fact I didn't really feel anything from it. When I stopped using it during the weeks when I was suppose to menstruate I felt terrible though. Crampy , weepy, irritable, achy. So I kept with it. In November I had a normal period, than in December another one. In January nothing. I have also been having some dental problems and scheduled oral surgery to have all my teeth pulled and get dentures. Still no period so I thought I'd better do a pregnancy test just to make sure before I have surgery. I've been joking that I jinxed myself. I told several people I rather go through childbirth than this dental stuff. Wouldn't you know, I'm 8 weeks pregnant! A bit scary at 43 but obviously not unheard of. Would love to chat with others going through all this at ,as someone put it this"advanced age".

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Posted 20 February 2006


Lynda, 41. NSW, Australia

Hi there, my name is Lynda and l live in NSW Australia. I am 41years old  and l have three children from my previous marriage:.Kirsty aged 24, Peter aged 21 and Tracey aged 17yrs.

l am now engaged to the most wonderful man and his name is Gary. We are currently trying to conceive.

l would love to talk to anyone with similar situations and any advice would be appreciated. My interests are knitting, sewing, gardening, cooking and spending as much time with my family as possiible.

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Posted 20 February 2006




Jonna, 42, Lakewood, Colorado, US

I am a 42 year old Mom of a 2 year old and a 5 month old. I would love to meet other Moms in a similar age range to correspond with, or get together with.

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Posted 19 February 2006


Nina, 42, Norway

My name is Nina and I am 42 1/2 years old. My husband and I have been trying to conceive our first child for 2 1/2 years.  I am very interested in making penpals with other women over 40 trying to conceive.  I have resently been through one try with IVF with negative outcome.  I really hope to conceive naturally, but theese days I am trying to make up my mind wheather or not to have another go at IVF...  The physical aspects of IVF went quite smoothly for me, but I thought it was very tough mentally.  More than I imagined ahead, even though I knew it would be tough.  Now I am starting to feel that I might be ready for a second try.  Anyone out there planning to start IVF?

I have bought many interesteing books about conception over 40, success stories, ivf-treatment and how to improve your fertility naturally.  And I have also found many interesting articles and info on the internet.  This has been very comforting to me.  It's so important to focus on HOPE during this prosess.  It would be nice to have penpals to share thoughts and experiences with!

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Posted 11 February 2006


Karen, 41, Derbyshire, UK 

My name is Karen. I'm 41 and mom to Aimee aged 3 years. I also have 2 older children aged 20 and 17 from my first marriage.  We live in the high peak area, but I’m originally from Birmingham.

My hobbies are horse riding, swimming, bike riding, walking in the countryside and reading.

My husband works long hours, so would love to meet someone locally, but will answer all emails.

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Posted 3 February 2006


Sue, 42, Lancashire, UK

I would like to chat to any mother over 40 who is trying to conceive. I have two boys aged 15 & 13 from my first marriage. I have remarried to a wonderful man and we would love to have a child of our own. He has no children. I am 42, very nearly 43. I have had two miscarriages. one in May 03 and the 2nd in Oct 04. Since then I have been unable to conceive. I now feel that my time is running out. I a overweight and I know that's not good, but I keep on comparing with my previous times when I became pregnant. Then I was not only overweight, but very stressed too, through the divorce from my ex husband. I am now losing weight slowly, but am a lot more relaxed, but it's just not happening. I now have been to the doctors and I am waiting for a referral. I have taken great comfort from reading the other ladies' experiences, I think it's  great that we young 40 somethings can keep in touch and support each other.

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Posted 2 February 2006


Robin, 43, Georgia, US

I am 43 and I am wanting another baby. I have 3 boys ages 16,15 and 6. My first two are from my first marriage. I have been wanting another baby for so long but I can't seem to get pregnant. This is very strange for me since before my 6 year old it was very easy. My husband now has never been married and has no kids. After one year of marriage we decided to try and I was pregnant within the first month.My 6 year old boy is the result of that union.I was 36 when he was born. I have easy pregnancies and easy births.  Now it has been 5 years without using any protection and still no baby. Every month my period comes it upsets me.

At the age of 32 I got pregnant unexpectively and the ultrasound showed it was a girl. At first I was upset I was pregnant at all since my marriage was on rocky ground. I was alsleep one night at 21 weeks' pregnant and I woke up wet. I went to the hospital the next day and found out my water broke. I was in the hospital 10 days and Caitlyn was born stillborn at 22 weeks gestation. I still have moments where I cry over this. I want a girl and have always wanted a girl but something about a experience like this makes you want it more.

I am so thankful for a website like this that offers hope for those of us that were about to give up. The the hands of time seem to be against us but hearing others successes gives me hope that it can still happen. I want someone to communiate with and encourage each other in our quest to have a baby in our 40's:)

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Posted 31 January 2006




Connie, 39, Estelline, South Dakota, US

I found your site comforting to me.  I am 39 and my husband is 41, we have four healthy children and have had 3 miscarriages throughout the years.  The miscarriages were hard on us.  It left me wanting more children.. something I haven't gotten out of my system... People tell me I look extremely young for my age and would've never guessed that I am 39.  At times I feel I should be thankful for four healthy children and leave having babies to others  younger, but there is a strong desire to have more.  My family, like siblings, friends and my parents would flip if they knew I wanted to be pregnant again.  I'm not sure why this desire inside of me to have one more is so strong, but all I know is when I'm holding my little baby just born Dec. 23, 2006, I feel so content.  It's almost as if she is healing me emotionally... I'm searching for answers.  Yes, I'm weighing the pros and cons of having another baby - even talked to my dr. at my 4 week postpartum appointment about it.  Still, even knowing the risks does nothing to dampen my desire for wanting more children.  My family is happy.  We live on a farm, raising horses and I'm a stay at home mom.  We have limited income, but we are happy.  I think of adding another to our family would be lovely, but worry about the negative comments of others.  Having another baby is on my mind alot and wonder if this is what God wants for me, if not, why do I want another one so much.

I am presently breastfeeding my 10 week old daughter.  My question is, is it possible to get pregnant while breastfeeding.  I guess, I'm wondering if there are any mums out there who have had this experience at an older age.

When I came upon your site, I thought I must write and find answers.  Is there anyone out there with this intense desire to be pregnant again at an older age? 

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Posted 30 January 2006


Katherine, 43, UK

Thank you for this wonderful site and the chance to read about others in similar situations.  I am thinking about having another baby.  I am 43 with 3 children ranging from 10 to 6 and wonder if I am pushing my luck in even thinking about having another!  I am worried about all the usual things – the potential health risks for the baby and my being an “older mum” and what others will think but secretly love the thought of another. Any supporting thoughts welcome.

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Posted 28 January 2006


Carrie, 41, Bournemouth, UK

I only got married at 35, and we left trying for a baby for a couple of years, but it turned out to be harder than anticipated.  At 38 I had an ectopic pregnancy, and had a tube removed, so we reluctantly thought ivf was the only way.  However, after losing weight, taking supplements, and getting fit, we became pregnant naturally when I was 39, and Carys was born when I was 40 in 2004.  I am now 41, and we would really love another baby.  I am doing the rounds of mums and toddlers groups in Bournemouth, but am finding it hard to meet people who are older, and can talk about things other than babies.  I have had my career, and have always read widely, and travelled.  I do feel isolated, also because we have moved away from our friends to be closer to family. I was wondering whether there is anyone else feeling this way? Thanks for the encouragement I have already found.

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Posted 26 January 2006


Lesa, 43, Benicia, Canada

My name is Lesa and I am from Benicia, Ca. I am 43 years old and would love to have another child. The last few years have been very difficult for my family. We lost our precious oldest son in 2001 to a brain tumor. He was just 7 years old. I also have a 10 year old son who is the joy of my life. Over the last four years I have had 3 miscarriages (all conceived without medical intervention) and 3 failed IVF attempts. The last two miscarriages were caused by chromosomal abnormalities which the doctors feel is age related. After going through all that you would think I wouldn't dare attempt again but there is an ache deep in my heart that is longing for a baby. I have read some of the stories posted and I am glad to know there are woman out there my age that feel the same. I would love to hear from other moms over 40 who are trying to conceive.

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Posted 21 January 2006


Leslie, 43, Spring, Houston, Texas 

Hello!  I'm Leslie - 43 y/o mom from Spring, TX (suburb just north of Houston, TX).  I have two children - a 20 m/o daughter and a 4 1/2 y/o son.  My 46 y/o husband and I love being older parents.  Things get a little hectic sometimes with an active toddler, preschooler, my husband's travel schedule and also helping to care for my elderly father.  The kids are loads of fun and keep us on our toes and feeling young.  We would like to meet other mature parents in our area for conversation, playdates, lunch or dinner. 

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Posted 14 January 2006


Marisol, 40, Connecticut, US

Hi, I have been lurking on this message board for quite some time now and just now feel OK to post. I am 40 and recently lost a baby at 16 weeks due to trisomy 21 (Down Syndrome).  I knew the risk but never thought it would happen to me.  I also had a miscarriage in April 2004 at 9 weeks.  I do have 3 great kids but have always wanted more.  For some reason I feel that I was meant to be the mother of four.  Is it selfish of me?  I don't know, but I have never wanted to be pregnant more than right now.  I recently went to see a fertility doctor regarding IVF with PGD.  If anyone has any experience with this please let me know.

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Posted 11 January 2006


Clare, 44, UK  (Updated)

I first posted on this message board in late 2004 and at that time was hoping to have a baby with my new partner (I have three children but he has none).  I have been pregnant three times in the last year, but each time I have miscarried at between 8 and 9 weeks.   My GP has been very good and has carried out various tests, which were all OK, so I guess it's down to my age as my first three pregnancies in my 20's were straightforward.   I feel I can't keep putting me and my partner through this, emotionally or phsyically, but something inside me doesn't want to give up either!  Is there anyone out there who has had recurrent miscarriages at 40+ who went on to have a successful pregnancy?

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Posted 11 January 2006


Georgina, 39, Canada

My husband and I moved are British expats living in Canada. We started trying for a baby last summer and got pregnant almost straight away. Sadly we found out that the baby was a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and I had a D&C. Now started trying again but the whole process is a bit daunting. I worry about miscarrying again, the health implications of being an older mum and the thought of giving birth terrifies me! Try talking to friends and either I get scaremongering or the old classic "well, at least you know you can get pregnant".

Would love to hear from other mums who have been through or going through the same thing.

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Posted 11 January 2006


Jo, 45, Derbyshire, UK

I am married to a wonderful man and we were fortunate to have a baby son 16 months ago when I was 43.  I’ve just turned 45 and we would love a brother or sister for Alex, but have had no luck so far.  I did meet some other women at ante-natal classes and we have stayed friends, mainly as the babies are similar ages.  However there is an age gap and I would love to correspond with other mums over 40.  I also work full time and my husband is away all week, so it’s difficult to get out, but I do love to chat!  Hope to hear from you soon, where ever you live!

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Posted 21 December 2005



Nancy, 43, New Zealand

Hi, My name is Nancy and I am 43 years old and am a mother to a 25 yr old, 23 yr old and a healthy 2 yr old. And Grandmother to 3.5 grandchildren. At 40 yrs my husband and I decided to try for a child, and have been blessed with a beautiful son. We did not have any tests as I was afraid that if I did I would have a miscarriage. All went well with the pregnancy, birth.

Then at 43 my daughter told me that she was pregnant again with child no 4.  3 weeks later and I was also pregnant, much to our surprise. We would grow and share our pregnancy together.
This was not to be. I had my first scan at 6 weeks (dating scan). All was well and our baby was due on the 21st may 2006. At 12 weeks I had my second scan and was told that something was not right.  I was sent the next day to have a cvs test done. That is when they insert a needle into my tummy and took some of the placenta, this was to find out what was wrong with our baby and I wanted to know the sex. 4 days later and we had the devastating news that our daughter was not going to make it to the full 9 months. I was told that the problem was not my fault. I went into labour at 14 weeks and after 6 and a half hours, our  baby was here. We are both devastated and still in shock about the whole thing.

It is now nearly 5 weeks since our baby has been gone and we are thinking about trying again after Christmas.

I want to try again, I don’t want to try again. I am so scared. I don’t want to leave it too long. If we get pregnant I will be 44 when baby is born. Will I be too old to cope with labour? All these questions and no one to answer them for me I would love to here from any mums who have had babies after 40.

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Posted 20 December 2005


Sally, 40, Orlando, Florida, US

What a wonderful site!   I'm hoping to find a connection in the central Florida area. My daughter is going to be 1 and it's very difficult for me to find moms in my age group.  Currently I'm a stay at home mom to Rose. I also have 2 teenagers from a previous marriage.  My husband who is 51 and I would love to have another baby. I love being at home and would cherish another mom's companionship.

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Posted 14 December 2005



Heidi, 42, Oyama, BC, Canada

I love your site...it's great reading all the wonderful success stories of pregnant ladies at the ripe age of 40 and over.  I am fortunate enough to have had a successful pregnancy at the age of 40.  Now, my husband and I are trying for a second child at age 42 and it seems to be more difficult.  I had a positive pregnancy test in July of this year and approximately the 1st week of September, I had a miscarriage.  I would love to talk to some of the ladies who have naturally conceived without any doctor intervention.  What's their secret to conceiving???

Thanks for listening.  I look forward to hearing from you.

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Posted 10 December 2005


Lurdes, 38, London, UK

Hello,

I am from Portugal and living in England (Richmond) for 12 years.  I have a 7 year old son and have been trying to conceive for 18 months with no result.  Given that I am 38 years old and my husband is 40 and very stressed, I think it might be related to "age" or stress or both.  I would love to chat with other mums in similar circumstances, especially if they know ways to overcome this problem.

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Posted 6 December 2005


Priscilla, 46, Cedarhill, Texas, US

Hello, my name is Priscilla. I am a 46 year old  pregnant mom. I am 5 months. I have a 24 year old and a 14 year old. My husband and I are very excited. So far I am having a normal pregnancy. I feel that I am blessed. It feels good to be able to talk to someone with the same
experience.

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Posted 6 December 2005





Kim, 40, Derbyshire, UK

I have three children already, aged 16, 14 and 6 and am planning number 4 next year. Before then, however, I have been advised to loose some weight as I had gestational diabetes with my 3rd. Is anyone in the same position?

My babies were all early and on the large side. I have also had 3 miscarriages between number 2 and 3.
I also suffered for pre eclampsia with no 1 and pubis symphasis dysfunction with no 3. And yes I want to do it again!!!

Id like to chat to other mums over 40 who are planning another baby or anyone interested in natural childbirth/parenting.

I dont know many older mums in my area as I work full time shifts, so if you want to chat, drop me a line.

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Posted 3 December 2005


Rose, 48, St Joseph, MO, US 

I would like to find a penpal with similiar circumstances. I re-married in May, 2005. My husband and I both have children from previous marriages and we want to have a baby. I just turned 48 and he will be 47 in January, 2006. I am starting a photography business, love to cook, be outdoors and read.

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Posted 2 December 2005


Gorin, 50, Pompano Beach, Florida, US

I am a 50 year old woman who had dormant mother instinct until I married my present husband George.

We are believing God for children as He has promised that none of His men or women shall be barren (Deuteronomy 7:14).

Other than making sure that we make love during my ovulation days, we are not doing anything else. I do try to eat healthy and stay fit by exercising regularly.

I would love to have others who have conceived naturally email me with their experiences and blessings.

Faith is built when we fix our eyes on those things that gives us a vision of what we desire.

Thanks so  much for your website and this service which I am sure has blessed many women… and men (I am sure).

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Posted 2 December 2005


Kate, 45, South Devon, UK

I had a baby girl last November (30/11/04) when I was 44 years old.  My pregnancy was great and I enjoyed good health and gave birth naturally at home.   The experience was amazing, particularly as I have two other daughters who are 19 and 21 year old.  They were born in hospital and although the births were straightforward I felt much more in control and relaxed at home this time.  My daughter weighed 8lb 3 oz and came a week early.

She is now 11 months old, nearly 1year old which is unbelievable!  It has been a magical year for us all.  My second husband had never had any children and we moved in together and felt the time was right for us and we were very lucky to conceive quickly.  I would thoroughly recommend mature motherhood!  I am just finding that I don't quite gel with the first time mums at baby groups and my friends without young children are doing different things.  So - it would be great to hear from anyone nearby particularly or in the UK in a similar position. 

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Posted 15 November 2005


Linda, 40, Tennessee, US

Hello!
I am 40 yrs. old and wandered if anyone has conceived after tubal ligation surgery, without the
reversal surgery.  I have one daughter, who is 10 yrs. old and would love to hear if anyone one else has conceived. I have heard of this happening, but I know anything is possible with God!!

Thanks!

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Posted 5 November 2005


Jamie, 39, Mass, US

I am currently 39 years old.  I will be 40 in January 06.  I have 3 children from my first marriage, ages 20,19 and 11.  I have been married to a wonderful man 10 years my junior.  He has no children or previous marriages.  We have been married a year and have decided to have a baby.  He is more than ready to do so, and will be a great father.  I am concerned though, about everything I hear for older pregnancies, the risks involved and all the testing.  I am having my IUD taken out next week.  I am worried also about being able to get pregnant.  My daughter is also due with her first child the end of April 06.

I would love to hear from anyone in similar circumstances, whether trying to, or already pregnant.
It seems when I was younger I took the pregnancies for granted, and just starting out I feel there is so much to be concerned about.

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Posted 14 November 2005


Stephanie, 46, Canada

Hi my name is Stephanie living in Canada and I am 46.

I have two daughters aged 15 and 18 from a previous relationship which I was very happy to get out of.  I have now been in a serious relationship for six years and he is seven years my junior and has never had kids.  We have been trying for three years to get pregnant and were successful two years ago, but unfortunately, it ended in a mc at 8 weeks.  We have been to a fertility specialist but was told that my eggs are probably too old, without even testing me and that at my age, chances are almost nil of becoming pregnant naturally.   She informed me that anyone that is getting pregnant at my age is buying their eggs. I cry every month when my period comes.  I have regular menses and know that I am ovulating.   My partner's sperm was checked and is considered normal.  I have never wanted a child so bad until meeting this man.  He is so very supportive and I would love the joy of raising a child with him.  Until stumbling onto this site, I was ready to believe that "fertility specialist".  I would very much appreciate receiving advice on how to get pregnant at my age.   

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Posted 11 November 2005


Sandy, 40, Tennessee, US


Bonnie 44, California, US

Hi, I just turned 44 years old. I have been trying to conceive with my husband for 3 years and have been pregnant 5 times with no luck. We have been married for 2 1/2 years, this is my first marriage & his second. He has a girl aged 9 who lives with her mother in another state. I went off the pill 8 months before we married as I figured it would take a while, well I fell pregnant quickly & had a very normal pregnancy with no problems until the amnio when we found out the baby had down syndrome. We decided to terminate and I had D&E with lamineria (which was horrific, anyone else have it?). I was at 19 weeks and our wedding was in 2 weeks. It was all a bit surreal, but we ended up having a great time. I then fell pregnant again fairly quickly yet had a natural m/c at 8 weeks, next pregnancy I also had a natural m/c at 8wks.

I then decided to seek out a Chinese acupuncturist who specialized in infertility. I went every week for a year & drank some nasty herbs, charted my temperature and felt like a pin cushion. During that time I fell pregnant but it also ended in m/c at about 7 1/2 weeks. They detected no heartbeat & did a D&C. I stopped going took a break from charting & herbs and didn't have any luck for a long time, then 11 months later (Sept 2005) I fell pregnant, but the home test & doctors test show a very faint line (which was alarming) and then I got my period late which I guess was really a miscarriage.

So I decided to see an infertility doctor and was thinking he would discuss IVF, well he said based on my history & age the sure thing and most cost effective method would be an egg donor. I was really sad as it was like that's it for me.  I am now toying around with the egg donor thing and still feeling uneasy. I am debating whether I should get second opinion and try IVF just once to know that I gave it my best shot, but it is all very costly & I don't know if I could take the disappointment right now. I have done a lot of research on line & it seems like at 44 most doctors steer women of my age towards an egg donor as the percentages of successful IVF is very low. I would love to chat with any women of my age who are as well at this cross roads and have had similar experiences.

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Posted 28 October 2005


Catherine, 42, New Zealand

I am 42 and living in New Zealand. I am expecting my first child in February and so far all has gone well. If all goes well with this pregnancy I hope to have another? Is this weird? I would like to speak to others with similar experiences and ask questions such as - how long to leave between pregnancies (given a) the greater genetic risk b) time to let my body recover!

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Posted 26 October 2005



Christine, 37, Rugby

My name is Christine and I live with Robert my second husband and my 4 children from my previous marriage. Robert and I have been married for nearly 7 years and have been trying to have a baby together for about 6. I was sterilised after my 4th child so we tried IVF initially with no success and then I had a reversal 2 years ago. I had a miscarriage earlier on this year which was very sad but the positive side was that the op had really worked. I would love to meet or write to other mums. My interests are cooking, music and driving.

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Posted 21 October 2005


Debbie, 43, Melbourne, Australia

I am a stay at home married mother of three. Matthew 8, Chloe 3 and Grace 2. I also had identical twin daughters, Emily and Amy, who were stillborn (Twin to Twin Transfusion) when I was 30 weeks. In September 2005 I also delivered a stillborn son, Luke when I was seventeen weeks. Yes, I know that early they call it a miscarriage but as he was perfectly normal and I saw and held him, I prefer to call it stillborn.

We would dearly love another child and have already started trying. Would love to hear from anyone who is trying to conceive and /or has lost previous pregnancies.

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Posted 17 October 2005


Leisa, 42, Texas, US

My name is Leisa, I am 42 and my husband is 46.  We have been married for almost 3 years.  We each have 4 children from our first marriages (25 to 11) and we each have one granddaughter.   We talked about having a child together from the beginning, but I never got pregnant, until last Fall.  Unfortunately, it ended in miscarriage at 10.5 weeks.  I was devestated.  I've always been extremely fertile.  Obviously I chalked this up to my age.  After 2 months, we decided to try again.  We both started taking specific vitamins, herbal supplements, I charted my cycles and my temp.  Sex almost became a chore, like house cleaning, and to no avail.  When school started again this August, I just decided to concentrate on other things ... the kids acitivites, hobbies, etc. And we literally quit "trying".  No more charts, no more herbs ... just regular life.

Well, I'm now 6 weeks pregnant!  The slight fear of miscarriage is still in the back of my mind, but overall I have an extreme peace about this pregnancy.  We've read about all the testing for Down Syndrome, etc., and we have decided not to find out.  If God allows me to carry this child to term, then I'm sure he'll also give me the ability to cope with whatever comes with it.

I would love to talk to other women who are either pregnant or have already had a child in their 40's.  Especially anyone who chose to not have all the testing done.  I know the tests are recommended, but I just don't want to do them.  I want to enjoy this pregnancy, not dread it.

Good luck to everyone.  You're in my prayers too!

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Posted 14 October 2005


Kate, 41, UK

My name is Kate and I am 41. I have decided to have a second child..my daughter is three. My husband and I split up when she was one and I now want to try and create more of a family for her with my new partner and experience the joy (and hard work) of another child.

I am nervous about it health wise and also how to explain to my daughter that my new partner is the daddy of her sister /brother and how this is best handled as she still sees lots of her Dad which I encourage. I am worried it will be confusing since child number two will obviously call my partner Daddy.

I d love to be in touch with an older  mum who has been through something similar. I work as a Press and PR Manager at a university four days a week.

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Posted 11 October 2005


Laurie, 42, Georgia, US

I am so glad to come across your website for older mothers.  We live in southwest Georgia, USA.  I am expecting (due 3/30/06).  I am 42 (43 in Jan 06) and have 2 sons: John age 23 years and Hunter age 13 months.  Hunter was quite the surprise as I have never used precautions against pregnancy in the past.  It just took that long to become pregnant the second time.  Now I am having my third and as much as we just want a healthy child we may be leaning just a bit on the girl side! LOL!   Because of my age, I did have an amnio when I was pregnant with Hunter but all was fine.  It is the scariest thing I have ever done because I researched it so much and knew all the risks of doing it.  Also it seemed a bit pointless, as no matter what the results we would not have terminated the pregnancy, but just prepared for what was to come. 

I would like to correspond with anyone in a similar situation, having very young children, as well as older ones.  My older son lives in another state, attends college, and visits us during Christmas break.  About every other year, we are able to travel to see him in the summer.  Since he is deaf, we can only communicate thru email or snail mail.  No phone calls.  So it is harder for him to be connected to his little brother.  How can I make them all feel like siblings when they are so far apart in age and miles?

Thanks again for a great website.  Looking forward to some new pen pals and maybe visiting if anyone lives near enough to travel to meet.

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Posted 11 October 2005


Sandy, 49, Wichita, Kansas, US

Hi.  I find myself pregnant at 49, my 50th birthday on the near horizon. I have a son born in 1982 who is himself the father of my 2-year-old grandson. I naver another son born in 1985.   I re-married (a younger man) and had another son in 1996 after struggling with infertility.  I was surprised in 1996 to discover I was pregnant with another boy.  I have joked for the past decade that "I turned 40 and found out I was pregnant in the same week."

Now I find I will turn 50 pregnant.  Un-planned. Have you ever heard of such a thing? Do 49-year-old women actually get pregnant without fertility boosts?  My periods have become less regular, but I still had them, and I know when I am ovulating (From my experience tracking temperatures, cervical
mucous and all that while struggeling with infertility in the early 1990's.)
Any comments?
Thanks.

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Posted 7 October 2005


Deitre, 43, Montana, US

My story is different for sure. I am a 43 year old woman that just found out this past year after suffering with pain for sixteen years that I have had Endometriosis. I had surgery for it and I also have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. My husband and I have an adopted son. We are now trying to have a baby. Sounds crazy but I can't help but want to try after sixteen years of no sex. The doctor put me on Clomid. So I guess we will see what happens. I have lost some weight with diet and am exercising moderately. I take vitamins and my hormones are now normal from what they tell me. So I’m scared and excited at the same time. I just want to say Thank You for your site! It is uplifting for us older moms. It seems like we are rebels with a cause. We need to stick together. I am praying that God has a bigger picture in store for my husband and I. I have suffered for years with all this and just know and feeling normal. I want what I should have had in my twenties and thirties. LOL

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Posted 3 October 2005


Andrea, 39, UK

I am 39 years old and have never had children. I am also unmarried and have put off trying to have children until I thought I would be in a steady relationship. However, I have been with my current partner for around 9 years and although things are not as good as they used to be, I feel that I can't afford to put off having children any longer. It's never too late to get married is it?

However, I think that having a child is important and I am depressed because
I've left it so late. I know that the most logical thing to do would be to find someone that I
feel is absolutely right for me. However, I don't think it's happened yet.

The thing is, I really can't afford to put off having children any longer.  Can anyone give some advice?

I look forward to hearing from you.

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Posted 30 September 2005


Elke Lott, 40, Texas, US 

Hi, I am having my 3rd child, my other 2 are 19 and 14 years old so as you can see I am starting from scratch.  I am 14 weeks pregnant and so far so good.  My only concern is that all the doctors keep telling me that my chances of having a child with down syndrome or other problems is high with my age and they want to do all these tests.  I have agreed to have the blood test and the detailed ultrasound, but do not know if I want to have the amnio since there are chances of a misscariage.  I would not want to terminate this pregnancy so far along.  I want to find out if there are other women out there that opted not to have the amnio and had normal babies or if they felt guilty in not having the amnio. 

Thanks.

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Posted 25 September 2005


Wendy, Toronto, Canada

Hello, We're a Toronto, Ontario, Canada couple working with a clinic in Maple Grove, Minnesota.  We have selected an egg donor who is part Asian and would like to share the ova.

Does anyone know of someone who might be interested?

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Posted 25 September 2005

Gill, 45, South Wales, UK

Hi my name is Gill, I am forty five years young with two beautiful grown up sons, one 21 the other 14.  Sterilized in April 2000, met a wonderful man in October 2000 and married him in July 2003. Sterilization was the worst thing I have ever done as now we would like to have a baby (my husband, by the way, is 14 years my junior and does not have any children).  Do we go down the route of sterilization reversal or IVF? We have made an appointment with an IVF clinic for October 2005, but after reading their introductory pack I feel quite deflated.

Before this appointment I would be grateful if anyone, could get in touch.  I would appreciate some
inside information on what to expect.

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Posted 21 September 2005


Robin, 44, Chattanooga, TN, US

I am almost 45 years old (November 7) and I my husband have a 17 year old and would love to have another child--I know we should have decided this earlier but for some reason I didn't think I wanted another child, well I guess I'm getting the empty next syndrome but I would love to have one but I am VERY VERY scared of downs syndrome at my age.  Any comments on this.

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Posted 19 September 2005


Dolores, 52, Savannah, Georgia, US

I am currently pregnant with IVF twins. Anyone wanthing to communicate can  would love to hear stories and such.

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Posted 19 September 2005


Darlene, 51, Irma, Wisconsin, US

I am a mother of three boys, ages 32, 28, and 9.  I was married for 26 years, having my first two sons from my first marriage. I got divorced and remarried 9 years ago. I would have never thought in my wildest dreams that I would have another baby at the age of 42! My present husband never thought he could be a father as he was sure he was sterile so we never took precautions.  He was 47 years old when he became a father for the first time.  Boy, did I prove him wrong!

Our families and friends were all shocked when they heard the news, not to mention myhusband's or my own reactions!  We learned to deal with it!    My doctor wanted me to have several tests done to find out if there might be a chance that I would have a "down's syndrome" baby.  I said, "No Way!" "God has decided we should have this child and what could I do about it anyway if he was born with a defect? I would still love him just the same."

Our little James was born 2 days before Mother's Day, "What a gift!!" We truly enjoy him so much and couldn't imagine our lives with out him. He also has a way of keeping us young, that's for sure!  A message to all you women out there who still have the chance to give their husband a child, I say, "Go for it!"  I did, and I don't regret it, not for one single minute in my life.

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Posted 14 September 2005


Stacey, 44, New Jersey, US

My name is Stacy ( first time Mom) and I naturally concieved and delivered a healthy baby boy September 2004 at 43 years of age.  I am now expecting another child April of 2006, again naturally conceived.  I live in New Jersey, USA.

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Posted 13 September 2005


Alison, 41, Michigan, US

Hello, Thank you so much for your site. I am a 41 year old British ex-pat living in Michigan and would love to have a baby with my partner who is 35. It would be my first child (and his) and we have a lot of anxieties,so would love to hear from others in  similar situations.

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Posted 12 September 2005


Jodie, 39, Sunshine Coast, BC, Canada

Almost a year ago I met a wonderful man who I am marrying next month, I have two children from a previous marriage, age 9 & 10. My partner doesn't have any children, he didn't think he could and we were fine with that and to build our lives together, the four of us.

Then to our surprise, I found out I was pregnant, I am 39 and he is 41. Once the shock wore off, we were both quite excited about being able to have a child together and that he could be 'dad'.  At almost 12 weeks, I miscarried and had to have a D & C.  We were devastated.

I conceived less than 2 months later and we were excited but scared too. Again at almost 12 weeks I miscarried again, this time naturally.

It's only been 2 weeks, but we are not sure what to think or even do.  There are so many mixed emotions and I know things happen for a reason. We just don't always understand the why.  We are taking time for ourselves right now and then we will see. I know he is deeply disappointed and I'm not sure why this has happened, but would love to connect with any other moms who
have had similar situations.

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Posted 9 September 2005


Dawn, 43, Birmingham, UK

Lovely to know there's hope.

Today I have been to clinic t collect my 'drugs' and taken my first injection on my first IVF cycle ever.  I am 43 next month and very interested in taking part in anything to highlight the plight for us oldies. I have three chilldren MMF 15,13,11 naturally born but got sterilised. I failed in a tubal reversal operation and my new husband of 35 has no children....so IVF is the only (costly) option.

Please contact me if you know of anyone interested in wanting to  follow my journey. We live in Birmingham.

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Posted 5 September 2005



Elizabeth, 48, Yorkshire, UK

I'm Elizabeth, aged 47 almost 48, have been divorced for 15 years and have 2 beautiful teenagers, a daughter 19 with moderate learning difficulties and epilepsy (controlled with medication and a son 16 who has just left school.  He has galactosaemia, so we have to watch his diet, as having an accummulation of dairy products in his system could be fatal.  To say the least though I am very proud of them both.

I am now in a secure relationship with a wonderful, caring man of 48 and we would like a child of our own together, but he is concerned for my health and whether or not my body would cope with a pregnancy at my age.  I consider myself fit and well. There is also the problem of what other people will say especially family members, like don't you think you are too old for this.  My
feelings on this are that you are as old as you feel and no I don't feel too old.  I'm certain too that I'd be more laid back and relaxed another time around because I'm older and more experienced and I'd also really enjoy every minute I spent with another one.  I'd certainly relish the idea of being as I say more laid back and not as stressed.

Until reading lots of letters on your web site I thought I was the only one that must be feeling like wanting another baby at this age, but I now realise I'm not and I would dearly like to hear from others if possible, especially any successful stories of women 47 plus.  Please also tell me I am not alone and stupid thinking about wanting another baby at my age. I'm too scared to go to my GP about this too as she would no doubt talk me out of it.  It's not a subject I could discuss with her so can you PLEASE! suggest where I could go to for advise other than my GP.

What both my partner and myself say is that if it happens naturally then it's meant to be.  Keep hoping!!! In the meantime we are considering fostering even adoption if the authoroties will allow and the wheels are in motion to commence the fostering at least.  Maybe if I forget the whole process of becoming pregnant it might happen, who knows and what a surprise that would be!!!  You know the saying 'life is full of surprises' true! I did have an uncle whose wife was 50/51 when they had their 12th child so I can only keep hoping and praying.

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Posted 3 September


Marce, 40, Orlando, Florida, US

Hi, I am looking for other mothers over 40 who wish to conceive. I am single and wish to try iui. I lost a baby in May and I don't have any children so that as a real blow for me. Is Debbie from Orlando still around? I am doing accupuncture and herbs right now is anyone else?

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Posted 1 September 2005


naturally (or who are pregnant naturally) and who would like to support and inspire each other, as well as pray for each other.

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Posted 25 August 2005


Leslie, 45, Germany

Hi, this is my third pregnancy in one year, all naturally conceived. The first one was terminated in August 2004; it was in the tube and the tube had to be removed. I was devastated, as I thought there is no way to become pregnant at 43/44 with only one tube left. The first time we tried again after the operation in December 2004 I fell pregnant again. I could hardly believe it, but sadly enough it was not ok, I lost it in the 11th week. I just did not want to give up, even though my spirits started to be very low indeed. All the hormones up and down really affected my body and I gained a lot of weight. Anyway after the m.c. and op on 4th of March we tried again in May and I fell pregnant straight away. Now I am in the 18th week and until now it looks very good and healthy. I can even feel the baby kick. So I think it is just as possible to become pregnant in the forties or even late forties. Just do not give up. Often I am still very worried, as the last year shook my confidence in my body and my luck, but I am hoping for the best. I know many people especially here in Berlin that are pregnant with 42 + or just had a baby with 41 and here nobody looks at you too strange. I received only one or two stupid questions, like do you not feel too old and I just said no I don`t, end of conversation. I have a son age 17 and when I was 28 I often was not able to stand back for him. It scared me completely when I noticed that I was pregnant that time. I am happy to have him,  but I am sure often he had a much harder time than I think this baby will have. I am not so scared to miss anything, so therefore I will have something much more precious. I wish you all all the luck and happiness.

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Posted 26 August 2005


Debbie age 54, Connecticut USA

I am ttc naturally with my second husband age 56. We were told when I was 48 that the doctors here would not help us, so we turned to natural fertility enhancers, dietary changes, imagery  and postive thinking. I am currently using prayer and Chinese fertility herbs to stall menopause--I have been having irregular cycles for about two years but my charts indicate that I am still ovulating. I have five children ages 15 to 31; the youngest child was conceived without trying at age 38. My husband has never had children, and that is the reason I keep going with this. I try to eat as much organic as possible, and also do a lot of research about aging, menopause and fertility in relation to diet and lifestyle. I would love to correspond with other women over the age of 50 who are ttc


Charo, 37, Canada

First of all, thank you for your web site.  It was an injection of positive feelings for me after my recent miscarriage.

I am a 37 year old mom of Megan, who is 9 months old and a real sweetie.  Honestly, Jan, it happened so good with her in spite of all my fears and she is so beautiful and I was so positive and happy, that I think I raised the worst and darkest envy feelings in other people, believe it or not.  I got pregnant very fast after Megan's birth (maybe too fast), when Meg was only five months, and I had a terrible miscarriage when I was three months pregnant.  WELL, YOU CAN'T IMAGINE HOW CRUEL PEOPLE GOT WITH ME.  THEY TOOK THE OCCASION TO SPIT AT ME THE MOST RUDE AND SPITEFUL COMMENTS YOU CAN IMAGINE, such as "This is normal, at your age you should have been more careful", or "You should not try it anymore at your age", or "Well you already have one daughter.  It's good enough".  These are things I would never tell anyone and I find them so evil-intentioned and intrusive, especially when I was not requesting any comments from anyone.  Why do people jump like hyenas on those who live according to their dreams when they take a fall?  Don't they know we stand up, shake the dust and fly again?

Maybe - and it is very sad to notice this - they would like me to not recover from this and live the rest of my life discreetly unhappy, like them.  But this will not be the case.  I will try again in some months or a couple of years perhaps and I am sure everything will be great, like with Megan.  Thank you for your support.

On the other hand, I would like to know if any other moms have experienced pain in their feet after delivery of their babies.

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Posted 24 August 2005


Natalie, 40

Hi,  I am 40 and due to have my 5th child January of next year.   I had already miscarried  one baby in March of this year.  I am not going to do the amnio, and I am a bit scared.  Is there anyone out there pregnant that would like to chat with me on all that is going on with us and all we have to deal with at being over 40?  Please contact me.

Thank you

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Posted 23 August 2005


Gwendolyn, 54, New York, US

I am a  54-year-old who would like to have a baby my mate.  However, I  have already gone through the menopause and don't have the funds.  I have an egg donor - my daughters.  Can anyone offer advice or help please?

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Posted 19 August 2005


Nic, 44, West Midlands, UK

I have just had a m/c last week at 11.5 weeks.  I conceived at age 43 (was 44 in Jul).  How long should I wait until trying again?  I am currently waiting for my blood test results because I think I may be Rh Negative.  My mother was the same.  I had a termination years ago so this was my second pregnancy but I have been told that with second pregnancies if you are Rh Negative you should have an Anti D injection which I did not have.  Could this be the reason I miscarried?  Has anyone else been in the same position?

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Posted 9 August 2005



Suzie, 43

Hi, my name is Suzie and I am a 43 year young mother of a 6 year old who I adore. We no longer live in the UK.

I would love to meet other women who are trying to conceive now that they are over 40 as my husband and I would love another child desperately but I have doubts because of my age even though my mother gave birth to me when she was 42.So if anyone has information or words of kindness please get in touch.

I married in my 30s and after several M/C  had my first child when I was 37,  my pregnancy and birth were excellent , I had no problems what so ever. When my son was 4 years old I went for an internal scan due to medical reasons and the Doctors told me I was unable to fall pregnant or if I did I would not be able to carry the baby fall term as I had what was call a (septrum); this is a bridge over the uterus, hence why my pregnancy always failed. I was very distressed to find that the M/C could have been prevented if only my GP in the UK at the time took the time to give me the internal scan because this is the only way it is detected. It is possible to have this bridge removed by laser operation and it takes 20.

So after all this my husband and I will keep trying for another baby and hope that time will not fail us.

To all those ladies who have been trying to conceive, please never give up hope, I never gave up and my prayers were answered in December 98 when I gave birth to a healthy baby boy and now I hope that my prayers will be answered again.

I look forward to hearing from you.
Thank you for this chance to say hello. Suzie

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Posted 9 August 2005


Alissa, 46, Virginia Beach, Virginia, US

My name is Alissa and I am 46, and I am pretty sure I am expecting and am still kind of in denial at this point, as I am only 5 and a half weeks, if I am indeed expecting (definitely have missed a period in a very regular 28-day cycle). I have had other symptoms of a horrific back discomfort in
the lower sacroiliac area, headaches, bloating. I don't have any particular physical worries outside of the ordinary worries every pregnant mother goes through because I am in excellent physical shape (I'm a surfer and will continue with that hobby until my balance is no longer good, lol!!). Had a horribly traumatic divorce and my daughter from the experience (whom I love very much) will be 20 in October. As I was saying, the divorce left a HUGE huge scar phsycically, and this baby is already being looked forward to with great joy. What REALLY makes it all so shocking is the fact that, a. I had a tubal ligation 12 years ago, and b. took added precautions to always use prophylactics so this still has me shaking my head, lol!! I can just hear my family now, and I ALREADY have the explanations ready. They'll be so shocked I'm sure, asking me why didn't I take precautions, but who really thinks of it at 46??? Goodness, lol!! And especially with the double birth control methods I was employing. I do know I am very very fertile, or was, before the
tubal. Anyone else with this experience of a tubal failure and unexpected pregnancy more than 2 years after the tubal?

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Posted 5 August 2005


Leslie, 46, US

Hi, I'm Leslie, 46, live in the US with my 51yo partner. I have a 30yo step-daughter and 9.5 year old granddaughter. My most intense regret is that I did not have children. We pursued adoption and foster parenting, and neither worked out (long stories, I'll share if you write and are interested!).

I had pretty much given up even dreaming of a baby, but some younger friends of ours conceived by IVF and have several good embryos that they will not be using. After talking about it extensively, they have offered to donate their leftover embryos to me to try and get pregnant.

I'm so conflicted, and don't know what to do. I'd love to talk to other women who have gone through embryo donation (to give me a better idea as to what to expect), women who have experienced pregnancy and birth after 47-48, and if there is anyone here who has reached that stage, parents who raised teenagers when they were in their 60's.  I'd also love the chance to talk with anyone interested about things that trouble me -- is it right for me to give birth at an age that makes me statistically less likely to be around once my child is a teenager or young adult? Will I find myself regretting having college expenses when I would have preferred to be retiring (we are NOT well off)? Can I deal with raising a child as I go through menopause (I'm in early perimenopause already)?

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Posted 1 August 2005


Jackie, 43, Bradford, UK

My name is Jackie, and I live in Bradford, uk with my husband Ian who at 36 is 7 years younger than me. We have five children between us, four boys and a girl aged from 9 to 14. A year after we met Ian decided to have a vasectomy reversal as we wanted a child of our own. After having the operation 5 years ago we were told the chances of me conceiving were practically nil due to the fact there were hardly any live sperm. Since then we have not bothered with contraception, and now at the age of 43 I have just found out I'm 8 weeks’ pregnant. I am working full time and am not well at all with morning sickness, and am worrying a lot over whether the baby will be ok. I want to have amnio but am worried about miscarriage as I think this our last chance of a baby together. There are also worries about money and where we are going to put the baby as we live in 1 3 bedroom semi (Ian’s children live with their mother and stay odd weekends and holidays in the conservatory where we have sofa and camp bed!) So it's a bit cramped
when everyone is there. I would love to chat to other mothers just to put my mind at rest I'm not the only one who has these fears.

Thanks, Jackie

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Posted 18 July 2005


Tish, Age 51, Orlando, Florida, US

I am a 51 year old professional woman with a 7 year old son who was born when I was 44. I am interested in meeting other moms over 40 in this area. My husband and I wanted a child for a long time before our son came along and I love being a mother (of course, I also am ready to tear my hair out sometimes). I have down shifted my career in order to spend more time with my family and now work part time in a less demanding job. We would like to add another child to our family and probably will do so by adoption.  I am a big reader and am interested in a diverse range of subjects. As a family, we try to spend a lot of time out of doors, biking and swimming, and we also really like to travel. We try to take several weekend trips during the year and plan a “big” trip annually. This summer we took our first road trip since our son was born up to Washington, D.C. and we had a terrific time (ok, so the tantrum on the Metro wasn’t so good).  My husband and I are very family oriented and have large families, but they do not reside in this area.

I find it hard to relate to the younger moms I meet through my son’s friendships, although I gamely persist. Most of my “career” friends ether never had children or had them long ago. I would really enjoy sharing some of the special challenges and joys of being an older mom with similarly situated women.

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Posted 11 July 2005


Debbie, 50, Texas, US

I am 50 years old and just lost a significant amount of weight.  My husband and I have only been married for 9 years during which time I was not healthy enough to conceive. I know most of the world would think I am nuts but I really want a child.  Any positive news for someone in my position?  Thanks for your help.

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Posted 6 July 2005


Krista, 51, Columbus, Ohio, US

My name is Krista and I am a 51 year old mother of 3 1/2 year old twins.  I had my beautiful children 2 days before I turned 48.  I am interested in communicating with other mothers over the age of 45 and in searching the web, found your site.  I would love to correspond with some older, first time mothers.  I live in Columbus, Ohio in the United States.  I feel like I am in a world of my own;  the mothers of toddlers in my community are all "20 somethings" and young enough to be my children. I long to develop a peer group, even if it is only to chat via email.

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Posted 5 July 2005


Mary, 46, Essex, Maryland, US

Hello!! My name is Mary,and I am 46 years young. I am a single Mom.My partner and I have been together for almost 7 years but we do not live together. When I was ready he wasn't and now that he's ready to TTC things are progressing very slowly because of our ages. I am trying to change the way I do things and be more healthier. I have started taking herbs and vitamins. I originally started with my FSH at 15 and then it went to 7.5 and now it's down to 6.0. So it is improving. Unfortunately my estrogen was only 26 this last blood test and so now I am trying to increase that. Once I get all my hormones regulated hopefully I will get pregnant. All I want is 1 more and I will be happy! Just 1!

I have an 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage who really wants a sibling and would be soo happy. I have seen her with little children and she would make a great big sister. I have gotten no support from the doctors in my HMO. They won't give any medical support at all...so I am in this on my own. They think it's crazy for a woman my age to want to have a child. I said I don't know where you have been but women have been having babies for centuries "at my age"! I would really like to hear from ladies who have similar situation. Thanks so much for your time!

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Posted 26 June 2005


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